Porn - Should it worry me?

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

I just wanted to get some advice from guys on a little niggle I have and wanted to check if this was a normal guy thing.

I know that my fiance looks at porn websites, he used to own quite alot of porn videos but got rid of them quite a while ago. He isnt a serial porn watcher, he looks on average I'd say once a week. But........heres the thing. He does it when I'm not around. I've not made a big deal out of it because I figure its a typical guy thing to do, however, as a woman it sometimes makes you feel that your doing something wrong or not at all.

I don't doubt his love for me and we plan to marry soon but Its just something I'd like a guys point of view on.

Any advice is welcome

Thanks

[doppelgaenger]

Yes, typical guy thing, and it makes sense that he does it when you're not around. It's used as a masturbation aid. Once per week is not very often.

[VincenzoG91]

I agree with Dopp. You shouldn't get worried unless these is something particularly disturbing about the nature of the porn, like weird fetishes or if he likes watching dudes on dudes. Not that there is anything wrong with gay porn, but you should be concerned if your boyfriend might actually prefer dudes. The only other things to be concerned about would be if he is looking at escort sites or losing interest in sex with you.

[smackie9]

Porn is just entertainment. I'm a woman and it's not just for guys, I watch it too so I totally understand the purpose of it. Guys have a total mind set when it comes to sex. They are very visual creatures with horrendous sex drives. Guys do not put an emotional attachment to sex, porn or looking at other women. It's just their hormones and they can't always control it...it's instinctive. Just think about the time you were the most horniest and then multiply that by 1000. They feel that way 24 7. It's difficult to keep that hard on down. As for porn, it's an outlet for release. It's a fact that guys like variety. Porn give them that variety. In no way does it replace you, or what you have emotionally. Why do they like to masturbate when they have you? Variety once again. It's just a different feel to them. So you have nothing to worry about.....it just goes to show you he has a healthy appetite for sex. I have a suggestion, why not spend a few romantic nights watching one with him. They do offer porn that is more geared towards women.

[Boisdevie]

I watch porn. Would I prefer porn over my GF - no way. It's just artificial.

[Raze]

I watch porn when I'm not around my gf. However, being with my gf has made me watch it less. Actually, porn gives me lots of suggestions on how to spice up naughty time.

[NeoSam]

men watch porn, FACT, you dont need to worry about it.

BTW we learn a lot of moves from porn movies

[IncognitoSir]

No worries, that's actually really good he only watched once a week!

[HeartIsAching]

Know why men watch porn and women read romance novels? Same reason.

It'd be unusual if he DIDN'T look at porn. Don't worry about it, it's not you.

[Gratedwasabi]

Once a week? Wow. He's practically a saint. Relax.

And hey, if you want him to watch it while you're around.. say so. Few things are as cool to a guy as a woman going "hey, wanna watch some porn?"

[Petit Papillon]

I'm a woman and I also know that guys watch porn. Especially if he does it just when you're not around, just leave it I was laughing at my bf once I found out that he has visited a porn website on his iphone lol It must have been really urgent Nahahahahahaa

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Ah thanks guys for your advice on this.

I kinda guessed it was nothing to worry about and he clearly doesnt view porn websites as much as he used to. Its just one of those things a woman has to query. If he views porn websites does that mean he's not interested in me but as long as its a healthy guy thing then I guess Im ok with it.

Once again, thanks x

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

Ok guys, its me again.

So i understand that porn is a man thing which women enjoy too. However, I feel that i may have interpreted myself alittle incorrectly.
When i said my fiance views porn its not your typical porn movies that he watches its those websites like porn hub and xtube.
Does that make any difference to watching x rated movies?

Apologies if I'm seeming alittle naive I just want to get a guys opinion.

Thanks

[Gratedwasabi]

Ok guys, its me again.

So i understand that porn is a man thing which women enjoy too. However, I feel that i may have interpreted myself alittle incorrectly.
When i said my fiance views porn its not your typical porn movies that he watches its those websites like porn hub and xtube.
Does that make any difference to watching x rated movies?

Apologies if I'm seeming alittle naive I just want to get a guys opinion.

Thanks

Would you rather he goes out and ****s a random chick or watches porn when you're not around? Unless you're available 24/7 for his sexual urges, those are probably your options.

Pornhub and xtube are fine, more realistic porn on there.

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

But even when I am around sometimes he's not in the mood then he'll look on these websites whilst I'm at work so its nothing to do with me being available for his urges.
This is what makes me so confused about him looking at it.