2011 New Year's resolutions

[Sonrisa]

You mean that I don't feel anything physical, right? Because I can't imagine feeling greater pain than I felt when I was rejected by my love. It's all emotional of course. It being all in my head is what makes it so hard to get fixed

Anyway as you can see, my resolutions support each other. Getting a date will help me get over the pain of broken heart and becoming less emotional allows me to shrug off the inevitable rejection.

do you know why you feel that pain? because you got your favourite toy taken away. it's as simple as that.

[Yet another guy]

do you know why you feel that pain? because you got your favourite toy taken away. it's as simple as that.

You've lost me with your analogy.

[Sonrisa]

well, basically we develop feelings towards things, people, habits. and once it's taken away we feel pain.

[Yet another guy]

Well, I'm not an expert in psychology, so I can't argue with that. This is several magnitudes greater than any pain I have felt from losing anything though. I don't think I have cried about anything else since childhood.

There's two ways to get better from losing my favourite toy. One is forgetting about it. I can't see that happening any time soon. The other is getting a new favourite toy which isn't exactly easy in this context.

[Sonrisa]

and what context would that be?

[Yet another guy]

Err, the context is relationships. So a new toy is analogous to a new love. So what I'm saying is that finding a new love isn't easy (for me).

[Sonrisa]

a new love can be artificially created

[KingZ]

Err, the context is relationships. So a new toy is analogous to a new love. So what I'm saying is that finding a new love isn't easy (for me).

FYI, about 98% of the things Sonrisa says come from conversations with imaginary people during schizophrenic episodes.

[Yet another guy]

An important part of my love is the desire to be loved back. How do I realize that artificially?

[qwertz]

buy a goldfish

[tehwarlock]

Let's see:
-Finally quit smoking weed
-Do well at exams
-Get laid
-Get with this girl in college, whom I just met
Not necessarily in that order.

[Sonrisa]

An important part of my love is the desire to be loved back. How do I realize that artificially?

ughm, i though we just agreed that there's no such thing as love? then do you mean that you want to have intimate relations?

[Yet another guy]

ughm, i though we just agreed that there's no such thing as love? then do you mean that you want to have intimate relations?

Yes, you did try to explain my pain using other words but I find it difficult to fit all of my feelings into that theory. I wasn't talking about intimate relations though I do want to have those with her.

[Sonrisa]

Yes, you did try to explain my pain using other words but I find it difficult to fit all of my feelings into that theory. I wasn't talking about intimate relations though I do want to have those with her.

then what is it?

[Yet another guy]

then what is it?

I don't know, I'm confused.

I'll try to explain my feelings without calling it love.

I have:
Affection for X
Desire for Xs affection
Desire that X depends on my affection the same way I would depend on Xs affection (safety, trust)
Desire for intimate relationship with X (closeness)
Sexual desire for X (passion)
Desire to satisfy Xs sexual desires
... there might be more, I'm not good at introspection.

I feel pain from knowing that:
X does not have feelings for me
My feelings for X are not accepted
My needs aren't fulfilled (trust, closeness, passion)
I cannot fulfill Xs needs (weight on I, because X probably has her needs taken care of since she doesn't need me)

I call it love because its more concise. I also find this kind of affection artificially quite hard and fulfilling the desires is even harder.

By the way, we have strayed a bit off topic.