I'm not ugly I swear!

**sookie6** · 23-12-10, 03:04 AM

Hi there

Another year has gone past and I am STILL single.

I have had dates, I have had sex twice this year, I've gone out more, taken care of myself big time to remain attractive but I don't seem to be able to meet anyone with the potential of a long term relationship.

This year I've met:

guys on the rebound/Guys with psychological issues (one was bipolar nothing wrong with that but he did scare me a bit/Needy guys...I don't know what do to...I think I won't try anymore...

2011 is the year when I won't try anything: no dating website, day dreaming and no attempts at creating opportunities for romance...maybe that's when it will happen...isnt' it the popular belief? It will hit you when you least expect it?

Sometimes I wonder If my fate has been sealed or what...my last single friend has found someone last year and is getting married next September with a baby on the way...and she was single for 5-6 years (not counting the flings she had in the meantime)..it does seem that once a woman has hit 30-35 she has more chance of being hit by a bus than finding love

(actually I stole that line from 30 Rock

)

**vashti** · 23-12-10, 03:47 AM

Originally Posted by sookie6

it does seem that once a woman has hit 30-35 she has more chance of being hit by a bus than finding love

(actually I stole that line from 30 Rock

)

Perhaps you are right if your goal is "finding love", but I find I am hit on a LOT more now than I ever was before. Sure, they are unsuitable for the most part, but that's the way it was when I was younger, too.

**KingZ** · 23-12-10, 04:05 AM

tu devrais nous montrer des photos

**sookie6** · 23-12-10, 04:24 AM

I've posted a photo on my profile although the object of this post was not to get any rating...you cant' see my body but this migh be the object of another post' I'm not fat I swear'

Vash yes you are quite right..I'm looking for love that's what makes my quest even more difficult...and god knows I keep reviewing my expectations (to me Looks and earning potential don't matter as much as personality and finding someone who is at least driven and hard working)..

anyway that was my rant...just wanted others to feel sorry for me tonight!

x

**vashti** · 23-12-10, 05:16 AM

Have you tried dating sites? I'm told that is the way to find serious prospects.

**sookie6** · 23-12-10, 05:23 AM

Originally Posted by vashti

Have you tried dating sites? I'm told that is the way to find serious prospects.

Yes vash..I had a date last week and another one tomorrow but it has not worked so far..maybe it will soon or not...i don't know...

Tomorrow I'm dating a divorced man with 2 kids which is a first for me but I'm trying broaden my horizon and to be more accepting of people's baggage

Maybe I'm trying too hard these days and blocking something on a cosmic level???

**vashti** · 23-12-10, 05:25 AM

how old are you?

**qwertz** · 23-12-10, 06:54 AM

Welcome back sookie

**Lipp** · 23-12-10, 08:48 AM

If only I was 10 years older

What's your lifestyle like?
If you meet plenty of new people through work/studies/activities/events already a more passive and take-it-as-it-comes approach may work better but takes more time and luck, and if you find yourself stuck in a routine it's better to be actively pursuing, but the downside is that you have to do it with a degree of disconnectedness of moving on quickly from bad apples and not get frustrated by the lack of results.

**girl68** · 23-12-10, 09:00 AM

What dating sites are you on? If they're the free ones it's gonna be bad. I've heard great things about eharmony. I personally know 3 ladies with long term suitors who are quite nice.

Or alternatively, you could have great results at speed dating. Especially if you're above average looking...

**Mish** · 23-12-10, 05:42 PM

Maybe you are trying too hard? Maybe what you need is to stop looking and just socialize with people, get to know them a bit without any expectations or end result in mind.

**sookie6** · 23-12-10, 05:44 PM

Thanks all for your support. I think I'm panicking because I turned 35 in September and I am already on the wrong side of 35, the one leading to 40. Talk about pressure!!!

And I know that in the scale of things, I'm not 'unhappy'...but...

Girl68 cheers for tip on the eharmony website...it's a great website I think but with a limited database in France...still I'll take some time to register.

What happens on dating website is just very much the same as in real life...I let people pick me and then I select who I'm gonna see among the men who 'like me'...

Very rarely do I get the nerves to write to someone I like and when I do they don't respond!!! story of my life really!!!

I'm wondering if there will ever be a happy end for me as it really does feel that the good guys are taken..

**sookie6** · 23-12-10, 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by qwertz

Welcome back sookie

It's nice to see you again Qwert!

**Mish** · 23-12-10, 06:06 PM

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself or you'll scare everyone away

**Ryan Heitzman** · 23-12-10, 06:58 PM

Let things flow natuarally. That's what everyone told meto do in the past. I can see that it works.

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