Should I feel guilty?

[Zaza]

I made advances on a girl i was hanging out with the other night. we made out, and i felt her up and gently rubbed her V (all clothes on). She didn't reject any advances, but as we weren't seeing each other i felt like a tool bag and stopped and went home shortly thereafter.

Should I feel guilty about making a move on a girl even if she seemed to be OK with it? Because I do. It made me feel like I only wanted her for sex and nothing else, but I hope that's not the case. Should i apologize for making a move on her? I'm not sure i want a relationship yet, but i enjoyed hanging out with her. I don't want to give her the impression that we're dating, but I guess i kinda botched that. Any thoughts?

[girl68]

don't be a pussy and apologize.

if you sense her hesitation just ensure her you respect her boundries whatever they are.

[Zaza]

wait... are you saying DO apologize or DONT apologize?

[Gratedwasabi]

wait... are you saying DO apologize or DONT apologize?

Why would you apologize, sounds like she was cool with it. Calm down.

[leoben]

Yeah, stop overthinking it. She might have just wanted to use you for sex.

[smackie9]

Sex is just sex....you don't need to care for that person, be in love or be in a relationship to enjoy it....it's called casual sex, no strings attached. And my god if it becomes friends with benefits you just hit the jackpot!

[Zaza]

i guess you're right... i mean it makes sense. i've never had a one night stand or casual sex, so i suppose that's why i feel dirty. how do i go forward and see her again without increasing the physicality or giving the impression that we're dating?

[vashti]

If you see her again, you ARE dating. duh.

(that doesn't mean it has to be exclusive.)

[devonbrown]

Nothing much really happened, so don't worry about it. If you see her again in a friendly environment, treat her like she is - a friend. If she wishes to begin something more physical and you don't want to, just let her know you are not sure that is where you want your relationship with her to go just yet. But don't make any more moves on her if you do not want to start anything. Unless you and she discuss it.

[Zaza]

vashti -- you've got a point. but how do you make it non-exclusive without coming off like a complete player?

devon -- good point. i don't know why i feel so bad about it

[warriormaiden]

Was this your first sexual experience? LOL, you seem to be freaking out over a little groping.

Dude. Relax.

[Zaza]

no, not the first. i've had sex, but its always been in a relationship that developed over time. just hope she doesn't think of me poorly for making a move, or that she thinks she's a tramp, cause i don't think she is.

[girl68]

i'm saying don't apologize, that's so lame.

[Zaza]

good point. think i just needed someone to remind me of that.

[devonbrown]

Zaza, glad that we could help. You seem like a decent guy. Good luck with everything.