i'll try to make this as vanilla as possible and to the point, as i can be a wordy guy. as such, i like to express and communicate my feelings. my girlfriend does sometimes, but not as much as i. i'm 36, she is 35. been dating 14 months now and have been through some issues not worth mentioning at this time. we're still seemingly very committed to each other. i def know she loves me, and i sure love her undoubtedly. here is the white/black issue, then i'll give details. "she doesn't text me like she used to." her patterns have changed. granted, we went through some stuff, but. she also did start a new job in september as well. however, i'm a HUGE believer in not having time is an excuse. my father was a surgeon with a very demanding schedule and he made time to call us to let us know he cared in the past.
from the time i wake in the am, i wake with a smile and a feeling of appreciation to have my gf in my life. most often i'll text her first when i wake up and wish her a good day, tell her i love her etc. etc. we don't live together by the way, and she always wakes up much earlier than i. but it only takes a min to send a sweet text letting them know you're thinking about them and or love them.
during the day, same story. we both have busy career, hers more so than mine, but again, just takes a minute. she will text me sometimes, but it really bothers me when she doesn't.
it's also worse when she gets off work for the day. now i'm not saying i need to hear a text every time she is free, but at least once during the day or afternoon. it's these sweet texts that keep me upbeat and motivated during the day. my mind just torments myself on the days when i know she is off work at 3:30, and i'm stuck at work till 6pm and i don't get any sort of "thinking of you etc." type text messages......is that so wrong to feel that way or expect the same in return?
let me throw out a disclaimer before you graciously reply. i do trust her and don't believe there is anyone else involved here at all. i think i just feel vulnerable in that i feel i'm giving more and possibly getting less. don't think this would have been as big of an issue had her texting habits not changed a little.
thanks for reading and providing your thoughts.
Al