Wow, I am really doing this. I am a male. I am 29 years old. I lived a sheltered life in my family's basement for most of my teenage life. I never once asked anyone out or been looking. I been hiding for most of my life. I was a very shy person. I lacked self confidence, questioned my sexual orientation and had no direction in life.
With my only outlet being the internet, I met my wife 10 years ago on MSN Messenger. She is my first and only love experience. I moved out to Minnesota to live with her. I moved in to her families home, I blindlessly said yes to everything thing her and her family decided without thinking for myself. We now own a house together. She was always bitchy and I was always quite. Over the years I learned to defend myself in arguments, stand up for what I believe in and have a lot more confidence in who I am.
My wife was born with a rare disease that ate away at her protective nerves on her legs. She had multiple surgeries as a child. Because of this, I have always been chivolerous and gone out of my way to better her life. 6 years ago, A few months after we got married, she lost her vision. Our lives adjusted again to move on. I now do much more to better her life. Blindness changes a person drastically. I matured much myself to adjust.
I bottle up my feeling because I know she was dealt the shorter end of the stick. With her life being so unfair I keep providing like a clockwork robot. I lash out in mild anger at times because of the unfairness. People always told me that I am a great person for dedicating this much time and effort into her life but I always didn't feel like I earned that stature.
My wife is often angry at how her life has been unfair. Often struggling with her disabilities. She has been blind for 5 years now and I don't feel as close to her as I used to. Her anger often pushes me way but I never strayed far. I understand she needs lots of chances to better improve her life. I am running out to reasons to love my wife. The old familiar feeling of love is fading and I am growing selfishly cold wanting more in life for myself.
I have met a single women in the past years whom I work with. She has 2 kids who are great. My co worker has so much poetic imagination and creativity, hanging out with her and being her friend feels like a fantasy or dream at times. We worked together for 2 years and she still takes my breath away. She has inspired me on many levels to be more open minded and that life is not so drastic. That there are always options and ways out of a situation. Till this day, I secretly "like" her very much.
My coworker and myself might not ever hook up or anything but she has opened my eyes wide. She deserves a great person to take care of her. I might not be that person because I understand the responsibilities of marriage and the consequences of choices such as these.
I still can't help but think what if? you know.
If anyone can give me creative opinions. that would be much appreciated.