thinking marriage

[dobieman0488]

I'm proposing to my girlfriend soon. we're 22 we've been together since april, and she has a2 year old son from a previous, horrible relationship, (he bailed as soon as he found out they were preggo, abusive, etc). I know this is it for me, and im in the process of buying a house for us 3. is this too soon??

[sparkle_jello]

I don't think so. My husband and I had a shotgun marriage after knowing each other for like a month and we've been together, happily, for almost 9 years.

[Judie]

Whether it is too soon or not is very subjective. However, I do think that you should give it some more time. Six months might not be enough for to know and understand a whole lot about each other.

[dobieman0488]

well, we've nown each other since ryan was born.

[girl68]

I agree its subjective but I do think it's too soon. Question- why the rush then. If you know it's it can't you just hold off for a year or 2?

[Agape]

you haven't told much . . . so how do we really know? . . .personally, 7 months and then marriage, and being in early 20s, and her having a son, and you already trying to buy a house . . .I don't think it's a good idea? Too much, too soon. But hey, I'm just some random guy on the internet

[vashti]

Yeah, it's too soon. The likelihood of divorce when you marry at 22 is very high, and when you add to it the stresses of parenting, this is what would be called a "long shot".