What's going on with my boyfriend?

[Twiz]

I'm 17 and my boyfriend's 16, we've been together for 3 months. He's told me before that he doesn't want sex, which I am completely okay with, but meanwhile when we are together he acts as if he does want to have sex. The last time I saw him we were making out and he literally got into his boxers. He was also touching my inner thigh and around where the top part of my pubic area is (and he has never done that before). I asked him yesterday why he did that because of course at that point I thought he was ready to go further but he said he didn't want to go further and he just wanted to get more comfortable. So I am really confused as to what he wants. I keep asking him but he tells me he doesn't want sex but then why would he act in ways that would make me think he does? What do you think is going on?

[Gigabitch]

I think he's trying to shift all of the responsibility for limiting sex to you. If he doesn't want to do it, he should keep his pants on.

[Twiz]

That's how I feel about it too. It just seems like he wants to but then apart of me feels as if he is possibly waiting for me to essentially say "ok, let's go". He's really shy, well obviously not in all aspects, but I'm wondering if he just doesn't want to directly say that he's ready. He's told me before that he wouldn't want to do anything that'd make me feel uncomfortable or awkward and that I wouldn't have to do anything that'd make me feel uncomfortable either. I've talked to him a few times about it though but every time sex is the topic of discussion he says he'd rather wait and that he doesn't want sex and that (and I quote) "it's not even a big deal, it's just sex".

[the_robot]

I have an idea. Ask him about it.

[Twiz]

Every time I ask he says the same thing, which is that he doesn't want to go further.

[the_robot]

Every time I ask he says the same thing, which is that he doesn't want to go further.

And what is his reasoning about getting his pants off?

[VincenzoG91]

You should get some condoms. You two are eventually likely to give into natural impulses, and his current state of denial suggests that he will be unprepared for that moment of truth. Have the condoms handy and don't get pregnant by this clueless boy.

[Twiz]

And what is his reasoning about getting his pants off?

Well, after we stopped kissing he said "I wanted to thrill you"... whch kind of confused me of what he meant. But aside from that he also said he just wanted to get more comfortable.
So there I was fully clothed and he was laying there in his boxers while we were both on his bed.


and VincenzoG91, I think you're correct.

[Gigabitch]

Those ridiculous comments about how he doesn't want sex (at 16?!?) and that it's no big deal are laughable. Clearly, he hasn't had sex, or he wouldn't say such silly things.

[Sonrisa]

ughm, is he attracted to you?

[Twiz]

Those ridiculous comments about how he doesn't want sex (at 16?!?) and that it's no big deal are laughable. Clearly, he hasn't had sex, or he wouldn't say such silly things.

He's a virgin.

ughm, is he attracted to you?

Yes, and he's told me before that he finds me attractive/pretty/beautiful

[the_robot]

He's a virgin.

He wants sex but he doesn't know how to start it, he is waiting for you to start it.

[Gigabitch]

Well, do YOU want to have sex with him?

[Twiz]

He wants sex but he doesn't know how to start it, he is waiting for you to start it.

That would make a lot of sense D:

Well, do YOU want to have sex with him?

I do.

[Gigabitch]

Does he know this?