dose size matter??

[pinkinterlude]

There was a sex education programme on telly recently where it discussed this. It was surprising to find out that what one would call a small penis, would actually be much bigger when erect. I mean much bigger than you'd expect. And a large penis more or less stayed the same when erect, as when it wasn't. So I don't think it really does matter, as long as you're 'prepared to do the deed'.

[dewilliams2]

There was a sex education programme on telly recently where it discussed this. It was surprising to find out that what one would call a small penis, would actually be much bigger when erect. I mean much bigger than you'd expect. And a large penis more or less stayed the same when erect, as when it wasn't. So I don't think it really does matter, as long as you're 'prepared to do the deed'.

I believe everybody is talking about hard dick...soft isn't good for much of anything in terms of sex...so when I say I'm 6 inches...thats hard....I don't know about girth.

Guys just worry about this...I mean I can't say I have never worried. I was with a woman one time who told me her last bf had a 10 inch penis...trust me...I felt inadequate.

Thing I realized is most women don't like to be bottomed out on and they aren't 10 inches deep so while I can usually go balls deep...that poor guy couldn't without hurting the poor girl.

[girl68]

Guys worry about dick size like women worry about titty size.

[Gigabitch]

There was a sex education programme on telly recently where it discussed this. It was surprising to find out that what one would call a small penis, would actually be much bigger when erect. I mean much bigger than you'd expect. And a large penis more or less stayed the same when erect, as when it wasn't. So I don't think it really does matter, as long as you're 'prepared to do the deed'.

I can attest to the fact that this is just not true. I've seen some guys with pretty small wieners, soft, that grew into gargantuan zucchini-style dongs when erect.

[nerdy_guy]

It's more about girth, actually.

Yeah, I know about the girth issue. that is why I'm more interested of the minimum length. I don't think you'd like something that resembles 5-6 stacks of DVD discs either

[the_robot]

I don't think you'd like something that resembles 5-6 stacks of DVD discs either

If I had something that size, I'd chop it off.

[lahnnabell]

I've had too thin before and it was absolutely boring. Combine that with no foreplay and I was practically asleep. I slept with that guy a few more times 'cause I wanted attention, but I never expected an orgasm.

I've had too short before too. What was great was how eager to please he was, but what sucked was how sensitive he was as a person. I practically had to nurse that guy, and when I finally broke up with him, he cried and threatened suicide via text one night. Happy I'd gotten rid of that one.

In terms of boyfriends, I've been pretty spoiled. Most of my guys have had really really nice, girthy and lengthy penises. But like Giga said, size isn't ALL that matters. No matter what pornos or movies show you, no woman wants to be screwed for 40 minutes straight. Warming your woman up with plenty of oral and getting her close enough to the edge of orgasm is important so that when you finally get to intercourse, you're both ready to go.

I'm happy with 10 minutes of intercourse, 20 minutes if we're changing it up a lot. It's okay to stop in the middle too and go back to oral. It's all about the chemistry you have with your partner. As far as length, I would prefer my guy not be less than 6 inches. I've been seriously spoiled though.

[nerdy_guy]

As far as length, I would prefer my guy not be less than 6 inches.

So its just a preference and not an absolute then?

[lahnnabell]

So its just a preference and not an absolute then?

Never say "Never" became a motto of mine after I'd gone back on several statements I made as a young one. I once swore up and down I'd never try anal sex. Years later I tried it and loved it.

So long as the guy isn't so small it's ridiculous and has a set of skills, I'll certainly give him a try. Besides, I only let go enough to orgasm when I am emotionally involved with the guy. A guy could have a great penis, but if I'm not emotionally attached in a significant way, I won't orgasm. I just don't care enough. I'll let the guy get off and I'll put on a show and enjoy myself while I can, but afterward I'll just get up and leave.

I find that most guys down for a one-night stand couldn't care whether a woman orgasms or not. And if they're around my age, they're probably so used to girls faking it that there's no point in teaching them anything new or real.

[nerdy_guy]

So long as the guy isn't so small it's ridiculous and has a set of skills, I'll certainly give him a try. Besides, I only let go enough to orgasm when I am emotionally involved with the guy. A guy could have a great penis, but if I'm not emotionally attached in a significant way, I won't orgasm. I just don't care enough. I'll let the guy get off and I'll put on a show and enjoy myself while I can, but afterward I'll just get up and leave.

If you put that on a percentage basis. would it be 50% size and 50% emotional involvement?

[lahnnabell]

It's more than that. Size has little to do with whether or not I actually orgasm; size has more to do with how much I enjoy the sensations of intercourse, but a man's size is not what brings me to orgasm.

So, perhaps 10% is how much size actually matters to me. Sexual skill set (foreplay, oral sex, desire to learn) is about 40%. Emotional attachment 50%. That is a very rough estimate. The emotional attachment is what endears the man to me. Depending on how I feel about him, his mistakes could be dealbreakers, or they could inspire me to want to teach him and learn from him. How I feel about him depends on his personality, does he respect me, listen to me, do I feel as though I can open up to him? All of those elements matter if I'm going to let go enough to have an orgasm with a guy.

And I never let men in on how they rate with me. That only opens up drama. According to them, either they do it for me, or they don't. I'll spend a little time figuring it out, but once I've decided, that's it. Any guy that I'm not serious about can get me in the sack whenever they want, but they'll have no affect on me emotionally. I don't invest in people who don't invest in me. If I really want a guy, I want to see him work 'cause I want to know if he plans on sticking around. And if he wants to leave 'cause he didn't get laid fast enough, then he can go ahead. Or if he wants, he can bang me and then leave.

According to my personal statistics though, I've never wanted to keep a guy I slept with early on.

[nerdy_guy]

Is that a general statement? Meaning, majority of women think the same?

[lahnnabell]

I have no idea.

What I do know is that it is important to have an strong skill set, no matter what size your dick is. You have to know how to touch a woman, how to perform oral sex, and how to ask her what she likes. Each woman is very different and what works for each one varies greatly. Too many men are afraid to ask questions and to have to potentially learn all over again. Then again, there are too many women that don't understand this about men, and fail to help them by being honest and upfront. This is why I like to hold off on doing the deed. I would much rather talk about sex and get the man's view on it before hopping into bed only to be incredibly disappointed. If I'm not emotionally invested, there is no desire for me to teach the guy anything.

A guy can talk up his game all he wants because the truth always comes out in the end. And just because I put on a show doesn't mean I'm not enjoying myself. I'll go for any positions, I'll moan, and have fun with it, but I will never fake an orgasm. If a guy is too stubborn to ask me how I want it, or what I want, then he can keep on going and I'll just fire up my toy later. Not a big deal.

Sex is much more than getting off for me. I love to have sex even if I don't orgasm because, for me, sex isn't all about getting off. It's about enjoying my partner and wanting them to enjoy me. My boyfriend had trouble believing I enjoyed blowing him just because I enjoyed making him feel good. I never expected anything in return; I simply loved playing with him and getting him off. That is the benefit of having a solid emotional attachment to someone. You do something because making them happy makes you happy.

[nerdy_guy]

Yeah, I do spend time a lot of time talking while looking at it up close and tinkering with it. She's not as active with it as you are so she doesn't exactly know what she wants. But atleast if I play with her, she's willing and tells me what works on her and what doesn't

[lahnnabell]

Knowing what you want in bed stems from having experience with masturbation. It may be that she does know but she's afraid to ask for it. To have a real connection through sex, most women need to feel safe. Too many men bypass this and assume that if his dick is big enough, or he can "go for an hour" that it solidifies him as some sort of Sex God. This couldn't be further from the truth. Let her know what you'd love to hear about her fantasies. (Note: It is very difficult to share what one thinks about during sex. Those can be intensely personal and private thoughts.)

By "it" do you mean "her vagina"? Get used to those words. Calling it an "it" gives off the impression that you are detached from her, when you should be trying to bond with her in this way. Don't treat her like a science project 'cause that takes away the romance.

I know this is a lot to take in, so don't expect to get it all down, set, and polished by Monday. Good sex takes time.