Drama Queen or Selfrespectful?

[luna81]

is anything wrong with the situation when a guy, who is "in relationship"(according to facebook :-)) for 5 months will be staying in the same bed with his ex(now friend) after her birthday party due to lack of sleeping facilities? Is the current one: 1. Drama Queen, 2. what's the hell she needs all this and it's time to get out of it?

[jessZ]

Um, my BF would NOT be doing that.

[luna81]

the guy is 32 y.o.

[kitkitkitty]

i don't understand why a guy would do this! it's obviously preoccupying you and he shouldn't. there's never too little floor in the world.

[xxazurexx]

Normal reaction. And if any guy of mine cared to share a bed with an ex, his status on Facebook would be reading 'single'.

Ask him how he would feel and if you jumped into bed with your ex.

[kitkitkitty]

you wrote this in the other forum? still the same answer- not good.

[jessZ]

Age makes no difference, or if it does, it works against him in this situation. By 32 he should know better!!! What happened when you talked to him about this??

[luna81]

and he also has a sleeping bag and a garden ;-)
details:
they share flat(mortgage together). her friends/relatives coming over. he is not very happy about it(work the next day) and according to his words he also would have to share bed with her(more sense than with other relatives ).
could the reason be that guys not very sensitive to such details or he is just simply disrespectful to my feelings?
what would you do?
p.s. i'm in a different country. know the girl too. seems like she is single now.
basically, am I a proper idiot and it's time to put my foot down?

[mDarkPoet]

Normal reaction. And if any guy of mine cared to share a bed with an ex, his status on Facebook would be reading 'single'.

Ask him how he would feel and if you jumped into bed with your ex.

I completely agree

[qwertz]

You should put your foot down and say this is NOT gonna happen, if it does then you will be single. He can sleep on the floor.

The fact he is still living with his ex and you are in another country would concern me enough without him telling you this.

[Kayla]

Whats to stop him from lying and saying she didnt sleep in the bed with him when she actually did?? I would not trust this situation one bit!

You are right though, luna, sometimes men just dont "get it" but I dont think this applies here. This is a pretty obvious disrespectful situation- him living with her and all..

I know its hard, but I recommend breaking up with him until he has a new living arrangement.

[Gigabitch]

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