Why do we still love the people who hurt us?

[Butter]

The fact that they hurt us should make us not love them.

[Toxic106]

Problem is, it is love. It's illogical. It can't be helped.

[Gigabitch]

Problem is, it is love. It's illogical. It can't be helped.

I disagree. It's NOT love. it's an unhealthy emotional attachmen, but it is NOT love.

[Butter]

what do you mean by unhealthy emotional attachment?

[vashti]

The heart wants what the heart wants. Much like a penis, it doesn't have a brain attached to it.

[RdHrshyKss]

being spanked isn't always a bad thing .

but getting serious, i agree with giga... i don't think it's love either. i think most of the time, the people who are getting treated like crap are weak and have a lot of emotional issues to make them believe that that's what they deserve, or it's all they can get, or they are too lazy/afraid to go out and look for something better. then they try to force the idea of love into their relationships so that they can ease that pain/loneliness they feel. do you have self-esteem issues? insecurities? i have a lot of anxiety myself and when i look back on some of my past relationships i've noticed that i took a lot of shit. and i'd sit there and get so depressed because i'd be convincing myself that i loved them, but in the end...after i was finally able to move on... i realized i didn't love the person at all. i just had a really warped vision of what love was and was always hard on myself. i still am to a certain extent and do come across some humps every now and then in my current relationship, but i've noticed that having a better view of myself, and actively trying to have a better outlook on things overall, has done wonders to my relationship. the way my bf was treating me was triggered by a lot of my own shit, and some stuff we were dealing with hasn't shown it's ugly face in awhile.

most of the time, it's what you think of yourself and how you treat yourself that is the real problem, not your partner...and not "love".

[Butter]

No, I was never spanked by my dad. In fact, he never really was there in the first place.