My gf wanted to drive me back to school for work because we haven't seen each other for a week while I was out for vacation. its a 1hr drive and she would have to come back next morning.
She asks me when I wanted to leave, and I said maybe after dinner because my mom is making fish. She said ok.
then she calls back sometime later and didn't want to drive me anymore because I didn't ask her what she wanted, and that I made a selfish decision without consulting her, and she felt like a cab driver that I'm taking advantage of.
I feel like she could have said "hey instead lets leave earlier and have dinner there". I would have said yes.
This is just an example of a general concern that I have. I'm obviously wrong here and should have first asked her when she wanted to leave. But honestly, it didn't matter either way, my mom happened to tell me we were having fish first. In this situation, I was wrong and she had the right to be upset.
But, there are situations where I feel like when there is ambiguity, there are much less dramatic ways of dealing with a miscommunication or disagreement.
When one partner makes a decision for something the other doesn't agree with or didn't plan on, the other should be able to speak up and say no lets do something else, whether this leads to an argument or discussion is one thing, but not speak up and chalk it up as "he should have asked what I want", just seem to be unnecessary...
and to add, I do love her and shes not nearly as dramatic as a lot of girls, but I don't know if this is something that happens less over time.