Thanks alove, reading what you wrote makes me feel not so crazy now about checking on him & he hasnt been to therapy yet about this kind of thing, but im gonna make sure hes gonna go, I fell asleep before after all the arguing and i woke up to find hes signed up to a porn addicts forum to seek help on how to stop it, he actually opended up to me abit after of why he thinks he does it. Anyway i was just so mad before i needed somewhere to rant of without people i know getting involved and getting the wrong idea.. The last thing i want to do is leave him, ive been with him through so much and when hes not doing this bullshit hes actually really sincere and a great support for me, but if it goes on any longer then eventually it will have to come to that unfortunately. Anyway.. thanks for the replies.