The Dreaded Friends Ladder

[politicodc]

Will try to keep it to just the facts

1) Girl just out of 3 year relationship.
2) I make move on girl, rejected w/ended relationship invoked as reason
3) Continues to express interest in hanging out, which she does twice. Invites me to bar with her and sister one night.
4) Goes up to Boston for 3 days to "finalize breakup," whatever the f that means.
5) Comes back jaded. Over text, 2x rejects invitation to hang out -- drops the F word (friends). "I don't want to give you the wrong impression, I just want to be friends." Okay, fine. I'm ready to move on...
6) One week later, girl starts going out of her way to talk to me, asks to me to hang out "don't forget you're welcome to come and chill out at the pool whenever."

Forgive my french, but I despise this sh*t.

I'm interested in dating her, and am sympathetic to the fact that she's fresh off a long relationship, but I'm also realistic: friends won't work as long as I'm attracted to her.

Anyone know the method to this madness? Did I scare her by moving too fast post breakup and she's actually interested, or is she just looking for a friendly shoulder to cry on?

[Illusional]

am i seeing doubles??


raverboy

[TheTooya]

am i seeing doubles??


raverboy

Yes, yes you are.

[Illusional]

it's a good thing that you told me that because i don't wear glasses.


raverboy

[TheTooya]

it's a good thing that you told me that because i don't wear glasses.

Booze kicking in already?

[Illusional]

i'm actually sober tonight. i just bought red dead redemption and it's addicting.


raverboy

[TheTooya]

Oh shit, I heard about that game! That game looks sick!

[Illusional]

haha it IS.... i feel like i'm on the western frontier.


raverboy

[Mish]

Anyone know the method to this madness?

I don't think there's anything wrong here. You can tell her that you are not interested in being friends because you are attracted to her and move on. Or you can put her on your own "friend list" and continue looking for someone else more compatible without any expectations for this girl. The ball is in your court.