How much longer can I go without sex? What's the deal with her?

[TheTooya]

*shrugs* I still find it off that she told you shes ****ed before, but refuses to **** with you.

Well, I guess best thing you can do is sit tight and wait. Come August, sure, ask her when she is "ready". If she says she isn't, I wouldn't find it unreasonable if you left. Her friends may find you to be some insensitive bastard, but what do you expect... <_<

[Junket]

It sounds like she's not interested in sex, with you.

To be honest.

[TheTooya]

It sounds like she's not interested in sex, with you.

To be honest.

Thanks for saying it without me having to, didn't want to be "that guy"

It sounds like the "nice guy" syndrome. Your the guy that she can go to to deal with all her emotional stress, but she would rather the bad guy to take charge.

[competitive2]

Well if she's not into me sexually, as it seems so, i'd rather just be a friend than a boyfriend.

[IndiReloaded]

Tell her that, while you think she's a great gal and care for her, your needs are important too. That its unusual not to be having sex after 7 months. Say you understand her issues about her first time but that you are not that guy. Say you are thinking of breaking it off to find someone more in tune with her sexuality. Emphasize you understand her reasons and you are not going to pressure her, but that you think breaking it off might be for the best b/c you two are clearly on different pages about the issue.

Stick to "I statements" (look this up if you don't know about it). Avoid accusing her of anything. State your case calmly from the perspective of YOUR needs.

BTW, even if you do stay together, this issue will set a boundary for how your needs get met with this gal on other issues. Its important, in other words, and well worth the chance you may break up over this. Good luck.

[VincenzoG91]

What if she is into something really freaky, and is worried that you might leave her when you find out? Maybe that's why is postponing the sex for as long as possible, until she is sure that you love her.

Or more likely, what if she just isn't very interested in sex? You might never be satisfied in this relationship.

[hello1]

[url=http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?act=idx]Asexual Visibility and Education Network[/url]

Maybe you should look at this website. She is either REALLY unattractive to you or she's asexual and well that means there's nothing you or her can do as that is her sexual preference.

[SirWagginston]

Dump her already! WTF!

[competitive2]

I don't think she's unattracted to me, she always calls me sexy and she likes to touch my body and she says i have a nice body and stuff like that.

[girl68]

^ none of that means she wants to have your penis in her vagina.

[competitive2]

well then why is she wasting my time? if i'm not gonna be able to have sex with her any time soon, i just become a glorified friend.

i have my deadline and i'm sticking to it.

[girl68]

she wasting your time 'cause you let her.

edit: good keep your deadline I just would have said that deadline should be yesterday.

[competitive2]

i'm not trying to force her into having sex with me. and of course she doesn't know about the deadline.

but the more i think about it, the more its bothering me.

7 ****ing months and no sex. if i treated her like shit i would understand. but the fact that she tells me she loves me a million times a day and no sex is becoming unbearable. i just don't see why we're waiting any longer. i can't understand that part.

i don't want to flat out ask if "are we ever going to have sex?" but i would like to know if she has no plans on banging me then i'll just end it right now.

[SirWagginston]

I would have dumped her four months ago. She says you're the best boyfriend, but she slept with some other guy after three months. Something is not right.

[girl68]

i don't want to flat out ask if "are we ever going to have sex?" but i would like to know if she has no plans on banging me then i'll just end it right now.

That's impossible. To know one must ask!