So I came here to LoveForum.net in July of 2005 if I am reading the timestamp correctly. I came here not long after college with a heartache. My girlfriend of 4-5 years had a post-college had a meltdown, dumped me, and moved back home to the trailer park. I of course came here for advice on the situation, learn the no contact rule, and to get things off my chest. Naturally that relationship couldnt be saved, she threw away her career, got knocked up, and basically hasnt done anything with her life. We still talk from time to time, just as I do with all my past girlfriends (strange I know).
A year or two after that, LoveForum helped me yet again. I was living with a Jackyl-Hyde kinda bitch with which I lived and fought with for a good year. One day, while I was at work, she packed her things and left. It wasnt a surprise, my gut told me something was up. Anyway, so throughout that process, I relied on LoveForum as a source of emotional therapy. Despite knowing it was for the better, I still fought to save the unsavable. BTW, she met someone online, got knocked up as well, married as a result, and is doing a lot better than my girlfriend before her. We remain successful business partners to this day.
In between these events, I came to LF as often as I could to help others. I lead a very busy life, but I like to think I've offered at least as much advice as I have received. Not everyone has appreciated my blunt approach to relationships, but I believe wholeheartedly in everything I have ever posted here. Do people want to hear it like it is? Not usually, but that doesnt change how it really is.
Most recently, in just the past month, I have again come to LF again for some help. In this instance, however, things were much more positive. I first sought opinions on asking a father/mother for their blessing. I then asked for advice on some engagement rings I was looking over. On both counts, the advice I got was yet again spot-on.
Last Thursday I drive 1.5 hours to visit my girlfriend's father. He gave his blessing and advised I not consult the mother, who was at work, as she could not keep a secret. (From what I'm told, it was almost as hard for him as those who saw him that day report he had a very strange vibe all day long). Anyway, I had picked out a beautiful ring thanks to the help of LF and on Friday I popped the question. Although we never officially discussed marriage, as I would always change the subject, I was confident she would say yes, and she did.
I felt it fitting, to post an official post here on LF. Not about my engagement per say, but on my experience here on LF. For all those who I've interacted with over the years, Thank you, its been a pleasure. For those of you new to LF, stay open minded, believe it or not most people here know what they're talking about.
Is this my last post? Certainly not. Hopefully, however, I will never find need of the Broken Hearts Forum again.