What is boring sex for men?

[chairman55]

After reading the interesting post on what women think makes sex boring, lets follow up on what makes sex boring for the men. My wife doesn't have an ounce of kinkiness in her. She doesn't have any wild fantasies or anything like that at all. Its not that she is shy or anything as we are each other's best friend. But so the sex is pretty boring. She kinda just lays there.

So it begs me to wonder, what do guys think the ladies should or should not do during sex? What could be done to make it less boring? Specific details greatly welcome.

For the ladies reading the thread, any insights?

[lilly1185]

Pretend she's a bag of potatoes

If you guys have discussed fantasies and she's just not into it, you might suggest in the act she move a little this way or that. Or grab her leg and hoist it over her head.
Maybe she's bored too?
Or had some bad connotations growing up about sex?

She might just be one of those people who just isn't interested in sex, either.
Does she know you're bored?
If not, I'm sure there is a way to tactfully bring up stuff in the bedroom is dull, subtlety is not my strong suit.

[VincenzoG91]

Boring sex is when the woman just lies on her back lifelessly and quietly while I do everything. Just about anything would improve it. She could make some noise, talk dirty, scratch my back with her fingernails, wrap her legs around me, thrust back, squeeze her kegel muscles.

[Kaius]

I lived through a 12 years marriage, with no sex in the final 3 years. The 9 years of sex was horrible.....boring....lifeless. My ex-wife would lay there, legs straight and no feedback or reaction. She expected me to do all the work. It was always just me on top. That's it. No cowgirl, no doggy. No oral sex. It was just so frustrating and sad. I figured no sex was better than bad sex, so I completely shut down in the final 3 years. Eventually, there was no kissing....and no talking at all. That's when I left.

[roy_delene]

she usually just lays there and I;ll have to stop and shake her,"pssst...are you awake?"
It would be nice to do something different, like me just lay there and go to sleep while she's doing me for a change

[CAM]

Wow. Stunned silence follows..................................


Ah, well I had a frigid girlfriend once. My strategy was to have three drinks before sex and at least I was having a good time

But seriously, if you don't feel uncomfortable saying it, you should suggest sexual therapy. Odds are she has either numb sexual organs/lack of sensation or psychological trauma.

[sookie6]

I lived through a 12 years marriage, with no sex in the final 3 years. The 9 years of sex was horrible.....boring....lifeless. My ex-wife would lay there, legs straight and no feedback or reaction. She expected me to do all the work. It was always just me on top. That's it. No cowgirl, no doggy. No oral sex. It was just so frustrating and sad. I figured no sex was better than bad sex, so I completely shut down in the final 3 years. Eventually, there was no kissing....and no talking at all. That's when I left.

I feel bad for you Kaius that you went through such a crap time...I hope you've met someone else since..

[Kaius]

I feel bad for you Kaius that you went through such a crap time...I hope you've met someone else since..

Thanks sookie. I met the love of my life 8 months ago. This woman is a sex goddess to me. We would have 4-hour sex on weekends, and still wanted more later! I am beyond happy sexually at this point.
I feel lucky to be with her. Life is so wonderful when good sex is part of it.

[qwertz]

Yeh, how can a woman just lay there? The only time i have ever done that is when i passed out drunk in the middle of sex with my then bf (we laughed about it afterwards!) i know for sure that even if i tried, i couldnt lay still - and wouldnt want to- if i was enjoying it. Women like that must have issues.

[vashti]

Yeh, how can a woman just lay there? The only time i have ever done that is when i passed out drunk in the middle of sex with my then bf (we laughed about it afterwards!) i know for sure that even if i tried, i couldnt lay still - and wouldnt want to- if i was enjoying it. Wome like that must have issues.

I agree. Maybe their men are uninspiring?

[IndiReloaded]

And here I am thinking that boring for men is just a woman who says 'no'.

[qwertz]

And here I am thinking that boring for men is just a woman who says 'no'.

But i bet over time the women who just lay there eventually just say no.

[Kaius]

It's a matter of sexual compatibility. Perception is everything. The women who just lay there are just not into it. For a long time I thought it was me....because ex-wife told me so. She was so cruel like that.
Guess what, I am having the best sex of my life, and my GF loves every moment of it....and she literally begs for more. Ex-wife became nastier and meaner after she found out I'm dating a gorgeous blonde woman
who makes me happy. hahahaha...

[vashti]

It's a matter of sexual compatibility. Perception is everything. The women who just lay there are just not into it. .

On the other hand, many young girls did not have the same sort of exposure to porn that males have, and they may not fully comprehend what their role is, exactly. A good lover guides - he doesn't just f*ck a corpse.

[Mish]

She could have a low sex drive, in which case you are out of luck. There are some women out there for whom once a month is the norm and there's nothing you can do to change that.