Originally Posted by
returnofthezro
depression in my opinion is a form of weakness - i think its a point when people give up and admit defeat in life, the depression is a safety net - something that people can fall back on and can blame for their own failures,
i think people confuse depression with sadness or dissatisfaction, of course all of us go through periods where we are sad/feeling down, but to call it a disease in my opinion is a cop out, because it entails that you are actually sick (like cancer, flu etc) and have no control over it, we live in a feeling concentrated society, where feelings of sadness etc are unacceptable, when in my opinion, its normal, people should accept it, suck it up take action and move on
while you do seem to have real issues (like health issues with your old lady), you seem to blame your ex for "low self confidence" and provided no explanation as to why you are currently not doing anything, it seems like apart from your mum (which hopefully has been resolved) - you seem to have no problems, if theres something in your life that you dont like, the quickest way to fix it is to take action, if you think your boyfriend isnt doing what he is supposed to be doing, dump him, if you are feeling down about not being in school, enroll, you are only 20, you have heaps of time, point is talking about it, crying etc, is not going to fix anything, you need to take action, pick out the specific things in your life that you dont like (school, work, boyfriend, girlfriend etc) and take action to fix them, that in my opinion is the only thing that will make things better
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my brother and dad supposedly suffer from depression, brother tried to take his own life because of it, so i do have some experience, not a doctor, but all the above is just my 2 cents, take it or leave it