my wife and I have been together for over 12yrs married for 9. We have to beautiful girls and what seemed like the perfect marriage. Until about three months abo while out for a night together at a nice hotel to celebrate our 9 th anniversary I found out the next morning that my wife was emailing an old boyfriend during the night. aafter I looked into her emails and text I found she was also talking too another guy friend of hers . Who she invited to one of her girls night out. That I was told was a work night.she did not get home that night until 0315 and she was drunk. I confronted her with the emails and such and after some initial denial she admitted it but said there was nothing going on she admitted she was wrong and didn't want to ruin our marriage. She says that she has felt hurt and far away from me due to some comments I made when were fighting almost a yr earlier. I told her during an argument that I didn't want to be married if this was how things were going to be also stated that her crying did not affect me anymore that I had grown used to it. We both said a lot of mean stuff to each other at that time I don't even remember what she said. But she says she can't get over what I said ......how can I get her to get over this and be the wonderful wife I love so so much.... Someone please help.... We are going to a marriage counselor but we have not gotten to this yet will it help us....???? Sorry so long my first time doing this