Should I delete him on Facebook if I want him back?

[Brokenhearted05]

Hi, me and my boyfriend just broke up a month ago. He and I dated several months and had been living in together for a year....The reason he told me was he can't have anymore commitments... now that he is busy at work and school at the same time. At first I couldn't accept it, cuz he told me I was his everything but then he let me go effortlessly...So after the breakup he also stated that if ever I found a girl involved with him, it was just a flirt....unfair right...he told me he had no time to bond with me, but he has time to flirt. So I got over it...
I got naggy before we broke up, cuz he doesn't do his commitments to me at all...we just moved out, I just missed him alot..
What I think of now is getting him back...I begged him several times, I've said insults and everything because I'm was mad, and I just thought I just made him go away....
He changed his number, hes hiding his facebook wall and stuffs but he is still my friend there....He doesn't contact me at all, when we talk, I always initiate it...I miss him so much...
Would it be better to delete him instead? what else should I do....
I really want him back....

[Cloud206]

If he is trying to cut any links to you maybe u should do the same,cut the bad memory away..my opinion.

[cmacattack1]

You want him back now but is it really in your best interest? To want him back even though it brings you unhappiness? It can't possibly work because you aren't high in his priority list. You couldn't possibly be happy when you are down there. I say this because he has time to flirt with others.

So you want him back. Begging hasn't worked, nagging hasn't worked. I know you want to fight for what this is and what you care about but he doesn't feel the same way. If you both aren't fighting for something, it's a losing battle. What you should be focused on is not how to get him back, but how to relearn to live life without him. You did before you guys dated and you will afterwards. Rediscovering that you can and will be absolutely one hundred percent fine on your own. You are breathing, you are alive. I assume you are in good health and have a lot going for you. You will be fine.

The question should be "Should I delete him off facebook because it doesn't help ME out?" I don't think it's a good idea, I did that with my ex and I did that sad crawl back to refriend her. Don't burn bridges in the moment, take a look at the big picture here. I do recommend deleting him off your minifeed though so you aren't tempted to look at it and the minifeed of your mutual friends that are close to him (They will be writing shit all the time). And you have to do the best you can not to look at his profile. It takes some willpower here. When it comes to looking at it, you have to ask yourself "What's the best possible outcome of looking at his profile?" Being upset and crying, especially if there is another girl involved? Not worth it, so don't do it.

[bah]

Wow. This guy doesn't seem to care at all. You need to start "flirting" with other guys.

[lastwish]

Why do you want this guy back? He doesn't want you, he wants his freedom and flirt with other girls. Don't believe that he is busy with school and work since he has time to have flings. Look, you are a beautiful woman with better options. So, don't worry about him. As with the facebook thing, it doesn't even matter whether you delete him or not because it doesn't change the fact that he isn't worthy of you.

[Junket]

Facebook?

Really?

[reina_munchkin]

No keep it there and upload pictures of you with other guys having a great time, the best revenge is living well!

[Mr. Turtle]

COOL CALM AND COLLECTED!!! Ask him what went wrong and discuss what led to the 'fallout.' Then discuss if there is a possibility of you two getting back together in the NEAR future. Going slower or something to that effect. If there is a no, cut your losses and find a different table to gamble at. No sense in staying at a cold table and losing your investment. Sorry just came back from the casino. LOL

[Brokenhearted05]

I just visited his page again....I can't resist he seems to be flirting with another girl...
my facebook is currently deactivated, do you think this is a good idea???

[IndiReloaded]

Why would anyone care about being deleted from Facebook. Weird.

[Brokenhearted05]

Facebook is the only way to communicate to him...If I delete it, it's goodbye everything.


Note: His wall is hidden to me, I just have a spare account he doesnt know about, thats where I can view his wall.

Why would anyone care about being deleted from Facebook. Weird.

[lahnnabell]

You're face stalking him. Bad sign. How do you think that your psycho behavior is going to win him back? It won't.

[Brokenhearted05]

Well he doesn't know I'm stalking him. So what should I do then to win him back?, and I just guess when he's back, he's not going to be the same person I got naggy at, and I'm willing to give this another chance.

You're face stalking him. Bad sign. How do you think that your psycho behavior is going to win him back? It won't.

[lahnnabell]

What I think of now is getting him back...I begged him several times, I've said insults and everything because I'm was mad, and I just thought I just made him go away....
He changed his number, hes hiding his facebook wall and stuffs but he is still my friend there....He doesn't contact me at all

After all that, he's not going to want you back. Too much negativity surrounding you and him, and I'm sure he feels it is better not to bother investing anymore time into you. You've insulted him and nagged him. All he has is this negative picture of you, which is now compounded by the fact that you're exhibiting unstable behavior by stalking him. Doesn't matter if he doesn't know you're stalking him. You're being creepy, and I'd want nothing to do with you either. You better just leave him alone.

[Brokenhearted05]

Thanks, that's very well said. I guess I will just leave him alone then...

After all that, he's not going to want you back. Too much negativity surrounding you and him, and I'm sure he feels it is better not to bother investing anymore time into you. You've insulted him and nagged him. All he has is this negative picture of you, which is now compounded by the fact that you're exhibiting unstable behavior by stalking him. Doesn't matter if he doesn't know you're stalking him. You're being creepy, and I'd want nothing to do with you either. You better just leave him alone.