How many times do I have to say no...

[vashti]

Why don't you have him get tested, and then do it with him when he comes back clean? If there is no trust in that area, how would this be a good thing? .

I must have told people 1000x: they do NOT routinely test for every single STD you can contract. Some of them aren't diagnosed in the absence of symptoms (such as HPV and herpes, which BTW are amongst the most common, and neither curable), and you can STILL pass it along.

[Gigabitch]

I must have told people 1000x: they do NOT routinely test for every single STD you can contract. Some of them aren't diagnosed in the absence of symptoms (such as HPV and herpes, which BTW are amongst the most common, and neither curable), and you can STILL pass it along.

That's true. you have to specifically ask for a herpes test. I had to do this when I had unprotected sex with a guy during my divorce freak-out (stupid! stupid! stupid!). I had an IUD at the time, but it was still unprotected sex because I wasn't protected from the many, many versions of crotch cooties he might have had. Thankfully, I didn't catch anything but a case of remorse.

[Junket]

Wait...sorry to be the devil's advocate here, but I would be pissed if my woman forces me to cover up. I hate condoms. I hate opening the wrap, wearing it, and having to pull it off afterwards. I can't believe mankind hasn't been able to improve it much over the last 40 years.
Since you are on the pill, what are you worried about? STDs? Why don't you have him get tested, and then do it with him when he comes back clean? If there is no trust in that area, how would this be a good thing? I guess if you are assuming he has HIV, herpes and all of that stuff,
then it's wise to force the rubber. In all of the relationships I ever had, including my current, I have never used a condom regularly. I get tested every 6 months, always clean..... mainly because I always get to know the woman really well before we go have sex.
I do the porno-ending pull-out every time, and have never knocked up anyone. I use a condom once in a blue moon if I want to finish inside of her....I suppose that's what it's good for...

Hi.

You're a f*cking idiot.

[Sonrisa]

I second Kaius, I don't use condoms and if i get semen inside of me i take the morning after pill. Never had an STD either. Did have partners tested though.

[Junket]

I second Kaius, I don't use condoms and if i get semen inside of me i take the morning after pill. Never had an STD either. Did have partners tested though.

Well shit, any guy would enjoy using you as a cum dumpster if you let them, so long as you didn't come back asking them to be the father of some random child.

Dudes that bitch about how "uncomfortable" it is enough to risk going unprotected are just a bunch of selfish, idiots.

Oh my GOD, I have to open the wrapper! Then I have to roll it on! And the worst part of it is I have to take it off!

I guess he's never worn socks.

[Sonrisa]

Well shit, any guy would enjoy using you as a cum dumpster if you let them, so long as you didn't come back asking them to be the father of some random child.

Dudes that bitch about how "uncomfortable" it is enough to risk going unprotected are just a bunch of selfish, idiots.

Oh my GOD, I have to open the wrapper! Then I have to roll it on! And the worst part of it is I have to take it off!

I guess he's never worn socks.

ha ha cum dumpster

[Junket]

ha ha cum dumpster

Just let me know when you're ready for a refill.

[IndiReloaded]

Indi, are you referring to me?

The whole situation, actually. Him and you.

But, since you asked: Yes, I think you are making a stupid mistake of the sort that typical young females do. His motives are wrong, he sounds stupid too but not so much he can't emotionally manipulate you. Its what I said about a guy who need to be told to use a seatbelt for his own kids. You gave him an external motivator in the form of an ultimatum and got a response, but not when he was challenged to find an internal motivator. More than that, based on your posts, he still doesn't get it.

Now, if you had posted something along the lines of "LOL, well, I got the response I was looking for and he came begging back with a box of condoms. He still doesn't get it, but I think I'll keep him around for a bit longer b/c this pool boy is good in the sack." (he's not even that, you said) OR "Well, he still doesn't get it, so I'm going to send this fish back to the pond to grow up a bit more.", I think I'd think you had a better grasp of what is really happening.

So, I can only conclude this is some lonely female response. That willingness to overlook significant flaws in a partner b/c they don't really have the strength to dump them and find better. You started off well, but you couldn't follow through.

I'm curious to know your thoughts.

Again, this^ only b/c you asked. Careful what you ask for.

[Gribble]

I've never gone without a condom. I don't trust anyone enough to risk herpes. Maybe if a chick came back fresh from the doctor with papers in hand clearing her of every possible STD and maybe if I personally administered all her birth control pills I'd think about it. Even then, I'm pretty sure I'd want my rubber. I really, really don't want a kid, and I don't think it's right to take any risks where human life is involved. Abortion shouldn't be for fixing mistakes. It should be there for disasters completely out of one's control. '

I have friends who never use condoms. They pull out. They sleep with promiscuous bar sluts. They laugh and call me paranoid. I know that it will catch up to them one of these days and it won't be a laughing matter when they're HIV positive or paying child support. I wonder if all that suffering is really worth the perceived discomfort of using a condom. Actually, I don't wonder. I know it isn't.

[Petit Papillon]

Oh my GOD, I have to open the wrapper! Then I have to roll it on! And the worst part of it is I have to take it off!

OMG, that sounded so gay hihihihihi

[LailaK]

The whole situation, actually. Him and you.

But, since you asked: Yes, I think you are making a stupid mistake of the sort that typical young females do. His motives are wrong, he sounds stupid too but not so much he can't emotionally manipulate you. Its what I said about a guy who need to be told to use a seatbelt for his own kids. You gave him an external motivator in the form of an ultimatum and got a response, but not when he was challenged to find an internal motivator. More than that, based on your posts, he still doesn't get it.

Now, if you had posted something along the lines of "LOL, well, I got the response I was looking for and he came begging back with a box of condoms. He still doesn't get it, but I think I'll keep him around for a bit longer b/c this pool boy is good in the sack." (he's not even that, you said) OR "Well, he still doesn't get it, so I'm going to send this fish back to the pond to grow up a bit more.", I think I'd think you had a better grasp of what is really happening.

So, I can only conclude this is some lonely female response. That willingness to overlook significant flaws in a partner b/c they don't really have the strength to dump them and find better. You started off well, but you couldn't follow through.



Again, this^ only b/c you asked. Careful what you ask for.

Well, this is the only disagreement we've ever had and I decided I was willing to work with him because I like him. That and I like being well f*cked. As far as I'm concerned, he's fixed the things I was bitching about so we're good now. If that makes me stupid in your eyes, I don't care. I'm going to go on being well f*cked and taken care of by my man as long as he doesn't mess it up.

[IndiReloaded]

Well, this is the only disagreement we've ever had and I decided I was willing to work with him because I like him. That and I like being well f*cked. As far as I'm concerned, he's fixed the things I was bitching about so we're good now. If that makes me stupid in your eyes, I don't care. I'm going to go on being well f*cked and taken care of by my man as long as he doesn't mess it up.

LOL. Okay, if you say so. There's no law against being stupid. But don't sweep what I said about him away. Its still true, even if you are choosing to ignore it.

[LailaK]

I'm not sweeping what you said away. Selfishness and stupidity will still be a huge issue in our relationship if I see it again

[Junket]

I'm not sweeping what you said away. Selfishness and stupidity will still be a huge issue in our relationship if I see it again

It's okay to ignore Indie sometimes.

[IndiReloaded]

It's okay to ignore Indie sometimes.

Duh. I spew all kinds of guesses here. Pretty good guesses, most of the time tho.