I need some advice..

[jane]

OK Guys.. tell me three things .. HONESTLY.. that you look for in a woman.. what are the three things you cant live without? What is the ONE DEAL BREAKER? . .thanks .. im curious..

[Rich]

Physical things or personality things?

[Karmartia]

Generally speaking she should be nice-looking, otherwise I'll be forever checking out other women. She should have a sense of humor similar to my own, or we won't enjoy each other's company. She should share my basic values or we'll be constantly at each other's throats. Pretty much everything else is negotiable. The deal breaker is dishonesty. Any breach of trust is very difficult to overcome.

[dewilliams2]

She has to be different...by that I mean she has to be her own person and not care what is popular or cool at the time....I want a woman who finds the bizarre and new things in the world interesting.

She has to be outgoing...I'm not so I need that balance.

She has to be able to make an ass of herself. I want a woman who will do the dumbest shit with me and not care what other people think as long as we are having fun. For example, last week we went bar hopping on roller skates...we both fell down multiple times by the end of the night but it was so much fun and she got an invite to play roller derby from a girl at one of the bars outta it.

[davidtorres]

beautiful
sexy = fit
educated


i cant live without her cooking for me
i cant live without her cleaning the house
i cant live withouer her being uneducated

deal breaker = being stupid and have no dream/success in life

[girl68]

^ You fool just gave 6 items that you won't go without.

[sehvral]

--Intelligence. I can't be around someone whose only idea of conversation is who got booted off American Idol last night.
--Adventurous. I'm always trying new things (kayaking one week, maybe a blues festival the next, then maybe trying a new style of cooking). She's gotta be able to keep up.
--Curiosity. I'm the guy who goes to the beach with friends and spends the whole time trying to estimate the AASHTO classification of the sand (*curses his former Geotech professor*), Or I set out to replace the blades on my lawnmower, and wind up disassembling the whole thing so I can understand how the engine works. An almost childlike curiosity is something I absolutely ADORE.

#1 deal breaker is explosive anger. I've been on the receiving end of explosive anger turned physical, and I'll never subject myself to that again. I watched a girl on our second date earlier this year make a waitress at my favorite dessert place CRY because she tripped and spilled drinks on us. It didn't matter that she *tried* to put out when I dumped her off at her house, or called 10 times in the following days to apologize. We were done the instant she blew up.

[davidtorres]

^ You fool just gave 6 items that you won't go without.

i was rushing. its hard to work and help this forum .lol

[girl68]

one would think when someone is rushing they'd type less not more. either way given the response if any guy I was interested listed cooking/ cleaning as a deal breaker I'd break the deal that wasn't even a deal yet. you're the poster boy for the type of guy I'd avoid.

[vashti]

^ You fool just gave 6 items that you won't go without.

And all but one of them was stupid.

[Doc Durian]

one would think when someone is rushing they'd type less not more. either way given the response if any guy I was interested listed cooking/ cleaning as a deal breaker I'd break the deal that wasn't even a deal yet. you're the poster boy for the type of guy I'd avoid.

Why?

Most modern gals I've known couldn't cook or load a dishwasher to save their lives. Rice cooking has been a mystery to some of them.

Sometimes, I'd like them to knock up a meal or wash the dishes.

Why can't he include that same sentiment in his deal breaker list?

[dewilliams2]

My gf is an awesome cook and loves to which I have to admit I find amazing but at the same time I don't want her to feel like she has to because she is a woman. Ya know what I mean? I mean she even seems to get a little upset when I try to clean the kitchen after dinner.

I just want her to feel like I want to take care of her to but its hard because it seems to bother her when she isn't cooking and cleaning for me.

Its not that I'm a bad cook either....she just loves to do it.

I've kinda given up and just try to do other things when I can. She doesn't seem to have a problem with me doing other things around the house in terms of cleaning and fixing things so I guess we each just have our specialties.

[CAM]

I wouldn't want to date or marry a woman who is trying to work within my "deal breaker" limits. That sounds really conniving. Like, "So...if I don't cook or clean, is that okay???" Translation: " If I just live with you and you do the rest...let's just be friends and have sex and not place too many demands on each other....will that be enough to make you happy?"

Gosh, it is so nice to get back on LF. I can still serve the ball and hit volleys!

[vashti]

Why?

Most modern gals I've known couldn't cook or load a dishwasher to save their lives. Rice cooking has been a mystery to some of them.

Sometimes, I'd like them to knock up a meal or wash the dishes.

Why can't he include that same sentiment in his deal breaker list?

I think that when men started expecting women to work outside the home to supplement their income, they gave up the right to expect women to routinely (and solely) perform these tasks.

It's not a matter that a woman shouldn't be willing and able to do these things. I certainly do them. Men should be able to do those things, too.

[girl68]

I comepletly agree with VASH. Don't expect me to be this modern independant woman and the retort to the "traditions" of the old world where the woman is the sole homemaker.

I will cook and I will clean and so will he.

On the contrary my "dealbreakers" are not that he must be the breadwinner (which is the opposite of the homemaker).