She violated my trust.

[Raditude]

My girlfriend, whom I'm engaged to, violated my trust tonight. We were in the midst of foreplay, and she bent down and licked my penis.

I have made it clear to her in the past that I don't believe in oral sex based on religious beliefs. (Please don't judge me, saying I'm having pre-marital sex, I know that.) I'm also a germaphobe, and that grosses me out. (And I don't need anyone making fun of me because I don't believe in oral sex.)

After she did that, I was mortified. I almost instantly lost my erection, and was in too much shock to really say or do anything. She got frustrated because I lost the mood to do it, then tried to give me a guilt trip about how she always tries to give me sex, and I get frustrated over it. (Yesterday she had gas that ruined it.)

I told her that she violated me and broke my trust. She said she feels bad.

I tried to let it go, but the more I think about it, the more that it eats away at me. She had to go home, so I'm stuck here alone in my thoughts.

I love her, I want to forgive her, but I honestly feel violated, and it's hard to shake it.

[doppelgaenger]

Some people just don't like oral sex; giving or receiving. There's nothing wrong with having those kinds of feelings.

You have to ask yourself whether you're making a bigger deal out of this than it really should be.Instead of taking this personally and feeling like she doesn't respect you or your values, you should take her wanting to give you oral sex for its intrinsic value, in that she loves you and cares about you and wants to please you.

Take this example as a miscommunication in your relationship.You have a difference of values that deserves an elaborate conversation. If you truly love each other and have empathy for one another, you will compromise the issue and learn to accept each other's differences.

[SirWagginston]

I think you've allowed your parents' violently abusive form of conservatism to prevent you from being who you really are. She probably understands this, and is trying (failing) to open your eyes. If you would realize that the belief systems of an abusive mother and father are not worth adopting, then you would understand that the phobias you've developed are a product of your parents' influence. Focus your obsessive fear on that, instead, and your depression will start to diminish.

I also think that you're a bad pothead.

[Olderandwiser49]

You're entitled to your religious beliefs, but she is entitled to her sexual beliefs. If you don't want to compromise, then that's fine. Just don't be surprised when she leans over and kisses your "wee willie" goodbye!


Imagine you are a member of Congress; now, imagine you are an idiot. But I repeat myself... Mark Twain

[Mard]

i dont mind if a girl gives me oral sex, but i dont see how can i ever lick a vagina, it looks so scary

[dewilliams2]

i dont mind if a girl gives me oral sex, but i dont see how can i ever lick a vagina, it looks so scary

Try it...you'll like it....not to mention its always good to return the favor.

As for the op....I think your making this a bigger deal than it is but honestly I also have a problem seeing it from your side....I love getting my dick sucked. And my gf walks around the house farting all the time...she has farted on me, thrown farts at me (yes it can be done) and pretty much tainted my air in every way imaginable...I mean not usually during sex but with that said that doesn't make me unattracted to her because she has gas...its normal.

[Cbrider]

I read your initial post. If you haven't fabricated any of your story, you need professional help. You have way to much baggage to try and take on yourself. Marriage needs to be your last concern atm.

[Doc Durian]

tongue on penis is wonderful and unexpected farts during sex are funny laughing matters for both to chuckle about for days/weeks/years.

Have you got a problem with kissing her orally? since the human mouth is far more dirtier than the skin of cock and folds of gash.

Take the advice from one of the previous posters... she loves and lusts after you enough to put her tongue on your private bits.

That's something special.

Work it out and get over it.

[Illusional]

with time.. just about anything can be forgiven.

raverboy

[dewilliams2]

with time.. just about anything can be forgiven.

raverboy

I don't know...if she bit me I don't think I could forgive.

[Illusional]

^^^ well when you really think about it, will you throw away your relationship because you want to be stubborn and not forgive her?

raverboy

[dewilliams2]

I was just kidding...I wouldn't ever tell a girl to leave because she liked to put her mouth on my penis....when I do that I have officially lost my mind.

I mean my dream job pretty much consists of getting paid to watch football, drink beer, and get a bj....that would be amazing!!

[Illusional]

then why don't you become a porn actor?? i would love to star in an AV.... damn, that is my dream job.

raverboy

[dewilliams2]

I don't have the penis for it....while 6 inches is every bit average....its not fit for porn.

Plus I don't think anybody wants to see my pasty white hairy ass sweatin on top of anybody....I suppose I could be wrong though.

[Illusional]

well you don't get any votes from me, that's for sure.

however, i'm sure that people want to see my little pecker pound some fat black chicka with a black hole va J J....


raverboy