OK.. So I need to know what to do next. I met this guy a little more than a year ago. We started seeing each other within a few weeks of meeting, and there were issues almost right away. He was very push/pull with me; most of the time I was just confused about where or what the "relationship" was. He did a lot of contradictory things- saying one thing and doing another type of behavior. We ended up deciding not to continue dating and to remain friends (we are a part of the same social circle). Bring just friends was mostly fine, although there was a lot of tension and visible frusteration, which we talked through and decided it was just going to be "weird" for awhile since we had previously slept together. Well, after several weeks of staying just friends, we ended up hooking up again. We talked things out and it seemed as though we settled some of our "issues". He admitted to being unfair to me as far as being unwilling to discuss the relationship. He is divorced due to an ex-wife having an affair and leaving and he claimed his behavior came from not truly being ready for a relationship. We started seeing each other again- however after several weeks the same thing happened. We ended up having a huge screaming match and it ended right then. We would still hang out as part of a group and occasionally spend time alone together doing things but there was always this weird awkward tension. Well- now... three weeks ago, I called him to ask about something completely unrelated and we ended up on the phone for five hours talking things out... we talked about everything from his divorce issues and my issues and all the things that went 'wrong' with us. We concluded the conversation by saying we were better off as friends. Well, that DID NOT LAST. That very same weekend, we hooked up AGAIN.. stayed up all night talking and just hanging out.. and yes, sex. Ever since then, we have been hanging out (mostly on weekends I stay over there at his place) and things seem ok. The tension is gone and we have actually been having a great time together. The problem is I don't want things to go the way they did the last two times. He has this underlying fear of relationships that he only half way admits to and I am starting to think this is more than I want to deal with. I have spent the last few weeks waiting for him to start acting like he did before and I do NOT want to get hurt again. I have been trying to be cool and let him totally control the pace of the relationship while also showing that I am into him (initiating some calls/texts). I have been very guarded this time around... I am just not sure what to make of this and what to do next. I really like him so I need to know how to handle things this time. I have already decided that I am done for good if things start to go bad again...