Feelin kinda weird

[Rich]

Hey guys,
Its been a while since I've been on here (much work ) but I'm starting to think I have some seriously weird intimacey issues and I could really do with some input.

Basically, I always get a really weird feeling/emotion after me/the gf do stuff for me. I'm completely fine when doing things for her, if anything I'm more up for doing things for her than myself but after we do things for me I always feel kinda weird and its kinda making me enjoy everything less.

I've always found it really hard talking about getting physical, so much so that I even felt uncomfortable in psychology when one of Freud's weird sex theories came up lol, I dont know wether or not that's relevant but just incase it is I thought I'd put that.

So if anybody can give any advice or input, I'd really appreciate it and I'm sorry this is a bit vague.
I love my girl very much and I dont want ANOTHER thing getting in the way.

Thankyou,
Rich

[girl68]

Are you gay?

How old are you?

[Sonrisa]

i am sorry stuff for me, stuff for her? how about descriptions?

[kisswithafist]

do you have any difficult past experiences or could you have kind of a more deep rooted problem? anything you can think of that could have triggered this off?

[dewilliams2]

Tell your gf that and see if you can sit there and talk about things with her...tell her what you want to do to her and what you want her to do to you...and then chances are after that talk you'll want to do it...so enjoy.

[Rich]

I'm straight and in my late teens

sonrisa, this is exactly what I mean, I get really uncomfortable even typing that sort of thing out.

I have a few ideas about things that have happened in the past that might be affecting me, although I never through they would. Its nothing major or anything but I'll see about finding someone to talk about them and see if that helps, and I think I should probably talk to my gf about all this if I cant sort it soon.

thanks for the advice everyone

[girl68]

Get talking, to someone you trust and feel comfortable sharing with.

[Rich]

Hey, just wanted to say that this is all startin to get a bit better now thanks, thankyou for all your advice and help.

One last question, is it normal to go through phases of feeling odd after masterbating? It has just started happening, I've been fine for years, now I feel a bit strange after kind of unsettled, is it normal?
thanks all

[Sonrisa]

why do you feel odd after that?

[vashti]

You probably are just spending too much time thinking and obsessing about it, which is making you hyper-sensitive.

Do you consider the "stuff" she does for you kind of whorish?

[Rich]

Kinda, all things sex have been regarded as a very touchy subject in my family.

I guess I just feel weird because I'm not used to sharing this kind of stuff with someone. I'm going to try to speak to someone about it tomorrow who might be able to give me some insight hopefully.
If I'm being honest, I'm more worried about feeling weird after jackin off recently, but I think that actually fits in time-wise with this whole thing with the gf so I think their linked somehow?

[originalsince85]

do you have any difficult past experiences or could you have kind of a more deep rooted problem?

'deep rooted' ..... ahahahahah

on a serious note...could you try talking more about sex? try and get comfortable with the idea?

how do you feel wierd? your penis does? psychologically wierd?

if you have a church background i often find that hinders people in this region?

[Rich]

hey thanks for the input
i think it must have been stress or hormones or something coz I feel fine now, so I guess it was just a phase thing or something.
I like the idea of getting more comfortable with everything, I think that could really help.

I feel great, its all starting to come together and I'm starting to feel much better in myself again

Thankyou all for helping me,
I'm really glad I found this place.

Thanks again,
rich