Is this appropriate to ask her?

[DaneClark]

We are engaged. I am turned off when girls have too much or too little hair down there, and I don't want anything to spoil our first time. Is it appropriate to ask her weather she waxes, and to explain to her that the only style that I'm really attracted to is the classic "american wax"? I know that I can't make her do anything that she doesn't want to do, but I'd also be willing to make any changes to myself that she wanted me to. I just don't want to risk being turned off by anything when we do it. Besides, there's a chance that she already has it the way I like it anyway.

(and yes, I am very well aware of the fact that who someone is on the inside is alot more important than who they are on the outside.)

[VincenzoG91]

How it that you have enough experience with women to have this kind of preference, but you are apparently engaged to a woman that hasn't had sex with you?

[dewilliams2]

No...don't say anything to her...maybe she already does this...that is only a conversation worth having once you have been intimate for awhile...one of the best things you can do is make a woman feel like she is sexy or desired so by breaking her down or making special requests before you even have sex with her might make her think that she is not sexy to you and you want to change her...make her comfortable with you first.

I'm amazed your getting married before having sex with her...I'm not saying its right or wrong...to each their own...but it is old school.

[DaneClark]

The thing is, I do find her sexy. I really really do. The thing is that I've never seen her naked before, and I'm just so used to the American Wax because it's what I've always seen in old Playboys, R-Rated movies, and late-night premium cable TV. I think that she would want to know what to do to please me, and if she thought that I was grossed out or something during our first time it could sour or relationship. I think she would want me to be honest with her. We should both let each other know what we like so that we don't risk disappointing each other when the time comes.

[vashti]

Jeez, if she's a virgin, I think the idea of just having sex is probably enough stress for her right now. DON'T ask her to do it.... at most, you can mention that you like it.

[CAM]

If she's a virgin, odds are it is "full growth" down there. Yuck. I hate the Cavewoman full-beard crotch of a virgin. I see that and I am limp within three seconds. I just can't send my soldier into that steamy estrogen-laced jungle unless the fields of fire are cleared or at least trimmed down.

[starbuck]

I think you should be careful about your expectations, OP. Chances are her body is not going to be trimmed, airbrushed, or retouched like that a Playboy model.

And no, I don't think it's appropriate to ask her to do anything about it.

[girl68]

Nope don't ask. If and only IF the opprotunity arrises like you're watching porn together and you see a nice bush you casually mention you like that style. Given that you're not having sex with her I doubt you watch porn togehter. So I think you should keep your mouth shut, for now.

[Krissykris]

Umm I wouldn't per say ASK HER, I would give subtle clues, girls LOVE to please their guy. Just bring up a topic about pubic hair (you have to figure out how to do that on your own) then say, when it's bald down there it looks like a 8 yr old girl, it's gross. You don't have to worry about her having too much hair there, believe me, it's uncomfortable. I take it you like the landing strip? Or charlie chapman mustache? Hitler mustache? Make it a funny convo, but don't ASK her to do it in the way you want, she'll be offended.

[DaneClark]

[QUOTE=Krissykris;562561. I take it you like the landing strip? Or charlie chapman mustache? Hitler mustache? .[/QUOTE]

I like it the way that Pamela Anderson used to wear it back when she was still young and hot- neatly trimmed, but still with a decent patch of hair around it. But yeah, I won't tell her what to do, I'll just mention to her that I like the way that late 80's-early 90's playmate bushes looked. She's a smart girl and will probably be able to put 2 and 2 together.

Also, if I were to tell her that I liked the way Pam's bush looked back in the day, what are the chances that she would actually look it up online to see what I was talking about?

[Krissykris]

Yah I wouldn't mention the exact person, she may take that badly depending on the girl. I wouldn't really appreciate my boyfriend mentioning another woman's vagina hair to me even if it was pretense, but in a sexual way, if he was joking or laughing about it then sure

[sheenietee]

Well, as with any pressing or awkward question you need to approach it in the most casual way possible. Do you not do any foreplay at all? Maybe suggest doing that so you can for sure see if she does wax or not. Maybe look at a playboy with her around and mention how much you like it when girls wax? I don't know, just be creative and natural.

[DaneClark]

I think I've figured out what I'm going to say:

"you know, I've always found it to be a major turnoff when girls completely remove all the hair they have down there because it makes them look like little girls, and I just find that creepy."

I don't think I have to worry about there being to much hair down there either, because she never has any sticking out when she wears a bikini so she has to at least trim it a little.

[girl68]

Yeah guess what? What if she's a shaver, and she is majorly offended when you say that? Thought of that?

[DaneClark]

Yeah guess what? What if she's a shaver, and she is majorly offended when you say that? Thought of that?

Okay then, maybe something a little less harsh:

"You know, I've never really liked it when girls completely remove all the hair they have down there. I mean, there's nothing wrong with trimming it down a little, I think every guy likes 'em neatly groomed, but I think that there should at least be a decent patch of hair down there, that's what lets you know she's a woman and not a little girl."