Hey guys,
Here's something to read and probably laugh at because my story is stupid.
I just got out of a really bad relationship. The guy was a total jerk. And I couldn't believe I left everything I had because he said we're going to be together after his business trip, and to comeback home from vacation to know that he's gone and ran away and changed his number. And when I emailed him, he said I'm crazy for sending him messages!! I only e-mailed him 3 times within 2 weeks, to find out whats going on since he didn't reply the last emails right after he changed his number and left. I think it's normal to ask what's going on, it's not crazy. Anyway I got so depressed but I wanted to move on.
So there I was starting from scratch, no job, no place to stay, no money. I posted a personal ad, and met this guy online. Naturally I'm a very nice woman, and maybe a little naive sometimes. So I fell for this guy, and I thought he was something different. He knew about what happened to my last relationship before him, because I met him when I was still trying to forget my ex bf.
We spoke for a month, and he said he's going to marry me etc etc, and he's out there trying to rent a bigger place for us. Everything he said was true, until, I added him on a website A, but he didn't add me because he said he's rarely online in that site. There it just hits me, and my instinct kicked and I felt he has something to hide. I'm usually not bothered with this, I just dump the guy, but this one, for some reason, I just needed to know so I can just get on with life without unanswered questions like my last relationship.
I did some detective work lol I just don't want to be burn again, I noticed he changed his e-mail add so he couldn't be found by people, but he forgot that I added him already means I can still see his page, and that he edit his privacy so no one could see his friends list, and that he added some apps and pages. That also means, he lied, he does open that site every now and then. Yet, I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
Until, one day, I was using another site, and I saw him opened a new account, and I stalked his profile. LOL I know, lame right. He deleted it, and then opened another one and I got the new account too. Long story short, I broke up with him like 2 times, but then he said he wants to make it work, please don't do this etc etc...
Then after another month, he was getting friskier, and yeah, he got what he wanted. Because I thought, if he wanted that, why didn't he do it months ago, I was sure it was just a guy thing. Means cyber and my private pics that I've never done before. Stupid hey.
Today, however, he said he was sick, he said his bro has swine flu, and he just couldn't eat anything, and going to the hospital. I saw his status on his profile, it said "watching a movie". And I said, "You just don't want to talk to me", and he said "I'm really sick, I can't eat anything, but I'm sorry if you feel that way, then do what you have to do...etc etc..." I gave him another benefit of the doubt, again, and asked him to send me the hospital's number so I could call him and to check up on him to see if he feels better. He didn't reply, but I peeked on his status he said he's smoking weed (I don't even know he does that) and he's drunk.
I decided to give my full effort on this one, maybe to prove me wrong. I pretended to be someone else and I contacted him. He took the bait. And he lied lied and lied about everything. The whole time I was trying to breathe slowly so I won't burst and tell him to his face that I'm me and how I want him to rot in hell.
I sent a test email on my real email and said good things, and I was being a nice girl too on the fake ID, I want to see which one he choose. But to be honest with you, now, I just want to dump him. But I want it to be as painful as possible, to use someone who's in a fragile and gullible state to actually screw her again, is so uncool. He could just say, hey I'm only here for the cyber sex and pics, then I would just switch off my feelings and it would be fair because he's given me a choice. You don't tell a girl you love her, you want to marry her, you etc etc this girl for that. That's not right.
Right now, he doesn't know that I know. And he also thinks my fake ID is this sweet girl who believes everything he said. The question is, should I tell him that I know and that I did all that crap for him? You know, I don't feel like telling him that. Or just calling him names to make me feel better without explanation? OR..... tell his family about this? LOL I dunno. I'm very hurt and I was shivering the whole time I spoke to him on my fake ID. I just couldn't believe I was out from a jerk and met another jerk. But whatever, at least I know now about him before we actually get married. Like I don't even know that he's into drugs and stuff until I did this detective work....
Thank you for reading I hope you guys had fun. And please give me an advice on how to dump him or what I should do.