I am obsessing

[Perryville]

Gig, is absolutely right about lying. Any type of dishonest behavior will erode a relationship quicker than anything else. I'm sorry for you, Luca, but don't blame it all on him, you were just as culpable as he was.

[Luca]

I know....I was to blame too. Instead of trying to talk to him about what was going on with him and his ex I just bailed on the relationship. Lesson learned!

I have not yet broken up with him. His grandmother, who raised him, passed away. He is having a really hard time dealing with her death. It is a pretty crappy situation because I have just totally emotionally checked out of the relationship but I don't want to dump him again right after her death. He is drinking heavily, and when I did go over to try to be supportive, he was wasted and just kept trying to sleep with me. It made my skin crawl.

[Gigabitch]

Eeew. That should make the whole thing easier for you. Maybe you should give his ex a call and give her a heads up to keep her legs open, since you'll be getting rid of him soon.

[bo_salecta]

i was obsessing for two years straight....but. its nothing anyone can say that helps you.

the medicine is:

do things that make you more conifdent: for me its going to gym and working out. now i feel more confident and have a bigger mouth. for you it could be to socialise more. make more friends, and make sure THE ACTUALLY WANT you and not be a tag along who they can just take to parties