How long before sexual aspects should be introduced?

[Soulchild21]

I'll sum it up here.

Ive been dating this girl for a month.

We have talked about sex before, but I have told her I don't want to go all the way for at least another few years (college at least). She understands this. She does want to give me oral/handjobs, and I want to finger her/give her oral as well.

I'm basically wondering if a month is too soon or what.

[shheadz]

If you're asking, you're probably not ready. Jumping straight to oral and fingering may be too much too soon. Take things at a pace that feels comfortable to you.

[NeoSeminole]

you've been together a month and you told her you want to want a few more years? Shit, I'd be all up in that by now.

[Wiredbomb0]

Depends on how comfortable you guys feel with each other. Just take things slow and let things progress as they progress.

[shheadz]

There are other ways to express sexual intimacy that don't involve whipping out your junk, or putting your hands down her pants. In fact for your own personal development I'd encourage you to explore the full spectrum of non-genital foreplay for a while. The stuff you learn will serve you well with women as you grow older.

[vashti]

you've been together a month and you told her you want to want a few more years? Shit, I'd be all up in that by now.

He's obviously a high school kid, probably 9th/10th grade. Please be responsible. Not every 14/15 year old is/should be sexually active.

[NeoSeminole]

I'm suppose to know this how? It's not my responsibility to peruse this forum for background information on the poster.

edit: meh, I could see how you deduced his age. I understood his post to mean he wants to wait until after college when his life becomes more stable.

[lovesjoyajm]

In the original post, he said he'd be in college in a few years.

[girl68]

Some of the best fooling around occured when I was a virgin. Please explore all aspects of messing around before you head to oral sex. Dry humping- god oh god, my first EVER orgasm was through this.

[NeoSeminole]

lovesjoyajm says:

"In the original post, he said he'd be in college in a few years."

did he edit his original post? B/c I don't see anywhere where he says he'll be in college in a few years.

[girl68]

Why don't you go read it again? It's right there, along with no mention of an edited post.

[NeoSeminole]

<yawn> I did read the original post hence why I arrived at a different interpretation

[BoredGeorge]

If you are under 18 you should not have sex. If you are over 18 then you should have sex. Easy.

[Cbrider]

If you are under 18 you should not have sex. If you are over 18 then you should have sex. Easy.

Oh George......if only everything came with a rulebook.

[Soulchild21]

I am a sophomore in highschool and so is she, to clear things up.

And I don't want to have sexual intercourse until at least after high school, sorry for not clarifying that.