I'm in love with an "ugly" old man!!

[miss_behaving]

Here's the story:

I'm a 28 year old woman... not the prettiest in the world, but I look OK.
I've always liked older men. By older I mean 35-45 year olds. Being 28 and having a relationsship with a 40 year old man is not a big deal, but what have happend recently makes me feel disgusted!

I've falled head over heels in love with one of my co-workers. He's a 61 year old ugly man... and I don't mean "ugly old man" in the kinky porno way. He's unattractive and has never had a relationsship in his whole life!

He has the greatest personality ever and he's very easy to get along with. At first, I liked him as a great friend, but now I have fallen deeply in love with him and I know he likes me too.

You can laugh if you want, but I can't control my emotions I'm ashamed of it. People always say those pretty words about not being shallow and love the person, but when I do that, Im ashamed of it!

What to do? Should I try to forget about it or go for it?

[Gigabitch]

Um, do you want to try to figure out WHY you have a thing for crusty old men?

[chick]

I don't think you love him if you're going to talk about him that way. Just saying!

[miss_behaving]

Maybe I said it the wrong way. He IS attractive to me... but most people would find him very ugly. I know I shouldnt care about what other people think, but I do!

[Paul Cho]

I dated an old woman when I was in college.


She was a lot older than me, and not attractive at all, but she was very wealthy. She bought me expensive things, like a 10k dollar suit I still wear to this day, its very comfortable, like wearing only a loincloth.

I did perform for her, she was very crusty but she could really get the juices flowing when it counted. I still think about her from time to time.

Only the good things.


Paul Cho

[bluesummer]

Ew Paul. Just ew.

Ok OP, you say you're 'deeply in love' with a man you're not even in a relationship with. That tells me something right there. What you are is deeply infatuated. You are making too much of your feelings for them and by doing so are amping up the intensity in your own head. What you are feeling is likely a rush from something considered taboo.

One of my bosses had the hots for me once and I didn't really like him (because he was a man-ho). But his interest coupled with the fact that dating him would be so dangerous and scandalous got me excited about the possibilities between us. Luckily I had the common sense to talk myself down off that ledge. It would've been disastrous.

Sit down and think about this a little more rationally.

[Lovable]

Ok so if you dig the guy, he digs you, then who cares about what other people think?

If you really like him then it shouldn't matter.

[miss_behaving]

Ew Paul. Just ew.

Ok OP, you say you're 'deeply in love' with a man you're not even in a relationship with. That tells me something right there. What you are is deeply infatuated. You are making too much of your feelings for them and by doing so are amping up the intensity in your own head. What you are feeling is likely a rush from something considered taboo.

One of my bosses had the hots for me once and I didn't really like him (because he was a man-ho). But his interest coupled with the fact that dating him would be so dangerous and scandalous got me excited about the possibilities between us. Luckily I had the common sense to talk myself down off that ledge. It would've been disastrous.

Sit down and think about this a little more rationally.

Maybe you're right. I'm a very emotional person and maybe I got my feelings all mixed up, but true love or just foolish passion, it doesn't matter because I feel like shit anyway.

[abra kadabra]

What exactly are you 'ashamed' of? the fact you like an other man or that you like somebody who isn't attractive to others?

The only thing I would question is why he has NEVER had a relationship with something in 60 years. That surely can't be just down to looks. I think that is the scary thing, not that he is 30 years older than you!

[bluesummer]

Maybe you're right. I'm a very emotional person and maybe I got my feelings all mixed up, but true love or just foolish passion, it doesn't matter because I feel like shit anyway.

Okay, now we're getting somewhere.

You admit to getting caught up in your emotions, so you know that maybe you are making too much of this? Why do you feel like shit?

[miss_behaving]

What exactly are you 'ashamed' of? the fact you like an other man or that you like somebody who isn't attractive to others?

The only thing I would question is why he has NEVER had a relationship with something in 60 years. That surely can't be just down to looks. I think that is the scary thing, not that he is 30 years older than you!

Im not ashamed of the fact that I like an older man. I've liked older men before and even had relationsships with them, but those have been pretty youthful older men that most women would find attractive.
Yes, I am ashamed that I like a man who isn't attractive or even "ok" to others. Sad, but true.

I don't know why he has not been in a relationship. He's a great person... it's a mystery! Maybe he doesnt feel comfortable with himself or something...

[miss_behaving]

Okay, now we're getting somewhere.

You admit to getting caught up in your emotions, so you know that maybe you are making too much of this? Why do you feel like shit?

Yes, I know I might be making too much of this, but that doesn't change the fact that I'm attracted to him.
and I feel like shit because I feel disgust about myself.

[QueenofCorona]

Ok so if you dig the guy, he digs you, then who cares about what other people think?

If you really like him then it shouldn't matter.

Word. Who cares what anyone else thinks? You're a big girl, not in jr high. Be sure you are going to be strong enough to not flee when/if you think someone is judging you for dating him and crush him.

[vashti]

You are a grown woman, or at least I assume you are. Who cares who you fall for? You are big enough to understand the disadvantages.

[Thelovedoctor]

Maybe if you really want to find out if you love this old man, is to bring him back to your place, jump his old bones and take him around the world!

I've noticed a trend that older men who have bad or no relationships tend to be pedophiles, so maybe when you get a second, you should run his name through the sex offenders database to see what comes up.

and just a thought, does he smile like this
[url]http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/images/pedosmile1.jpg[/url]

and is he good with children?