Why do guys hafta be attracted to other females?

[Elle_Boogie]

Even when a guy is committed and very much in love, he's still going to think about and look at other females. This makes me sick and makes me want to become a lesbian. B/c females aren't like that. Females become blinded by love and wouldn't even notice if all the other men on the planet dropped dead. When we are in love, we see no one else. It SUCKS that thats not the case for dudes. F*ck y'all, or at least f*ck the creator for making you that way. Its not fair. He could of at least made us all the same. Instead we're completely mentally devoted and your guys' minds wander no matter how smitten you may be. F*CK.

[Gigabitch]

Yes, it's in a man's nature to look around. That doesn't mean he's going to grab the first ass he sees. So what if he notices? It's whether he's man enough to be committed anyway that matters, and there are plenty of guys out there that can do this.

[Elle_Boogie]

Its just very frustrating that men were made that way---with minds and eyes that stray. I just wish us females were the same so we could at least empathize. But instead we have to settle for less.

[Gigabitch]

Believe me, guys don't always enjoy the fact that they have a short sexual attention span. It's distracting and makes their lives more difficult. It's fun when they're young, but when they grow up and get married, it can ruin their lives.

Maybe it's them who have to settle for less than what we get.

[QueenofCorona]

I think it goes both ways, its not just men. We are visual creatures. Are you really only ever attracted to just your boyfriend? I know there are men out there who I find attractive, doesn't mean I'd ever betray my boyfriend. Looking and acting on something are two different things. Giga's right, its commitment that matters.

[Elle_Boogie]

I would rather be the one who acts on an urge and ruins a relationship, rather than be the one getting played and heart-broken while having done nothing wrong.

[Lovable]

Sounds to me like you are nursing a broken heart Elle.

Do you really think that you could just change who you are & start to look & touch every guy even if your in a relationship?

It does go both ways with men & women looking & possibly touching.

I'm in a committed relationship & my man & I will see someone attractive of the opposite sex. We may comment on him/her, but the main thing here is neither 1 of us goes after them. You can always look & maybe appreciate a nice looking man or on the guy side a nice looking woman. It takes a strong man or woman that is in love with their partner to look, but never touch while they are in a relationship.

[qwertz]

Maybe he wasnt satisfied?

Oh and not all women are blind to a mans faults just because they are in love.

[Gigabitch]

One bad guy doesn't make all of them bad. There are wonderful, loyal, devoted men out there. You can find one.

[Elle_Boogie]

Yes, I have been played in the past so this issues has affected me directly. Its like, I know there's a difference between looking and touching. And I am very blessed to have a committed and faithful bf. I know he would never cheat, but the mental straying still makes me sick to my stomach. And no, my love hasn't blinded me to his faults. It just give me tunnel vision---I see no one but him. <3

I guess I have no choice but to deal with the pit in my stomach and the nausea this whole thing causes. I do have a good man who would never cheat, but I can't help that his mental straying makes me sick. Its prolly out of fear of being hurt again. But that realization doesn't make the upset stomach go away. Grrr! Thanks for your replies.

[of.the.room.]

im sorry to disagree but girls are as bad....but they are less obvious about it.

[MVPlaya]

That might be true for you but its not true for all females, I know plenty of females who are unfaithful and are constantly checking out for hot guys whether or not theyre in a relationship. And I know guys who fall hard for girls who end up playing them. Sorry your relationship isnt working out for you though.

[QueenofCorona]

Yes, I have been played in the past so this issues has affected me directly. Its like, I know there's a difference between looking and touching. And I am very blessed to have a committed and faithful bf. I know he would never cheat, but the mental straying still makes me sick to my stomach.

I guess I'm curious as to how and when is he checking out other women? Are you two out together and he's eye ****ing every woman blantantly to the point where she any anyone else would notice, like giving himself whiplash to catch a glipse of her walking away? Is he making deragatory comments in front of you about the women he's checking out? If so, thats gross and you have to decide if thats what you want to subject yourself to.

[Elle_Boogie]

Haha, my relationship is perfectly fine. This issue is entirely in my head. Science and health class taught me that guys' minds and eyes wander. My man's eyes NEVER wander when I am around, but its very likely they do when I'm not. And its science (like I said), that they think about other women. The guy hasn't done anything wrong at all, he's amazing and wonderful and committed and faithful. Its my own personal battle that I am struggling with. Despite the fact that my man is faithful, I can't stand that fact that he thinks about other women (which he must, b/c he is a guy). It makes me sick and I am just trying to find a way to deal with it and accept it.

[NeoSeminole]

OP, stop whining. If you want a guy who isn't sexually interested in other women, then date a 50-yr old with low testosterone levels. But even then, you'll probably complain that he has a low sex drive. Men were created to procreate with many females. Get over it.