Attracting guys

[qwertz]

Ive been single for a year now (apart from a couple of short flings) and, well, i cant seem to attract any men!

Im not looking for husband material, or anything too serious, just someone to share things with and spend time with.. and a girl has needs! lol

Im fairly confident and not that bad looking(at least i dont think so lol) i know i have a lot of baggage, but that doesnt seem to be the issue, as i cant seem to get guys interested in the first place to find out about the baggage lol.

I will strike up conversation if at a bar or something, but i leave any asking out or for number etc to the guy..but they never seem to ask!!
Again, i dont think im that much of an idiot to put someone off after a minutes chatting!

But i dont know..i just dont seem to attract them, and im not sure why!!!?

[lahnnabell]

Maybe they're all braindead? I dunno what to tell you hun. The only thing I can think of is your approach, but I don't even know what that looks like. I'm assuming you're pretty straightforward though. Maybe they're intimidated? I get that a lot.

[qwertz]

I dunno, if im gettin a drink or something, and they give me eye contact, or just generally look interested, then i will strike up conversation, or if they do im happy to chat.

I wouldnt call me intimidating, im confident but not overly, it just happens time and time again, so im at the conclusion it must be something about me that is putting them off asking me out/for my number.

EDIT: and these are different types of men, at different types of places.

[Primo]

Maybe advertise the baggage?

Seriously, it's just a dryspell babe along with some some poor timing and bad luck. You're certainly hot enough and have a great personality. Some lucky English buck will come along soon enough.

[Illusional]

you're at the wrong damn bars that's why. hello... i live in hawaii... you have to drink at a bar in hawaii and then i'll ask for your digits.

raverboy

[Coco]

How young are the guys you approaching? Because immature guys think women who approach them seem desperate.

[qwertz]

usually older than 25

[Illusional]

How young are the guys you approaching? Because immature guys think women who approach them seem desperate.

i will agree with that, boys can be immature... wait, how old are you Q??

raverboy

[Coco]

Try NOT talking to them. Find a reason to get close to them... example, if they are standing by the bar find a reason to get something from the bar. Let them get a wiff of you, there is always that something about a girl who smells great. Put on the sexy strut without trying too hard. Make them come to you. Even if you do just say... "Hi" when you walk past. But leave it at that. If they don't approach you then... eff them.

[qwertz]

22 .

[Primo]

you're at the wrong damn bars that's why. hello... i live in hawaii... you have to drink at a bar in hawaii and then i'll ask for your digits.

raverboy

I thought you were gay Raverboy?

Weren't you hitting on me in another thread awhile back?

[Coco]

LOL! Hi Primoooooo <3 Mi love you long time.

[Primo]

LOL! Hi Primoooooo <3 Mi love you long time.

That feeling is allllways mutual babe !

[Illusional]

I thought you were gay Raverboy?

Weren't you hitting on me in another thread awhile back?

that's only because you're so sexy.

raverboy

[Indignant]

i wonder how soon you start telling them that you have a child? that would be a huge turn off for most guys.