Maybe it's me, but I find it easier to get over something when a man is honest. I can get past the flaws if they are honest about it because that leaves the ball in my court. I can choose to fuss about it everyday and let it destroy me... or I can get the fcuk up out of it. It's when they lie and become sneaky about it, that irks me. Don't get me wrong... I am against the porn thing hard or soft (that got me thinking dirty LOL!) but but as Kelly Clarkson says, "boys will be boys oh yes they will."