I have been going out with a girl I really like for the past month. Things have been great, we have lots in common and enjoy each other's company. She's a quiet, shy person, quite guarded initially, but over a few weeks time has warmed up and even started initiating asking me out.
This weekend, we had a wonderful date. And then it hit.
She asked what I wanted for us, and then said she had something to tell me. THe mood was still happy and smiling.
so I said, straight from my heart, that I wanted us to be together.
She replied that we can work out, she has feelings for me, but that she will need a little time.
She went on to talk about a recent bad breakup in her life and got quite emotional. I didn't say much, I was just silently listening and supporting.
She kept asking me if her past bothers me. I said of course not. She then kept on saying how bad the mistakes were and basically beating herself for them.
Anyways, there was a lot of awkward silence from this point on and I really don't know how our relationship stands!!!
She hasn't contacted me since then, which is strange becuase she normally does (even a short text).
....
Yesterday, I asked her out to a coffee shop and talked in the afternoon... She seemed pretty happy, we had a good time. Better than I expected. Needless to say, we didnt even touch her confession.
However...
I felt she seemed slightly less affectionate than before (as in hand holding, etc).
we texted a little after that. I noticed the texts were still a little bit cold.
I have a feeling I have to initiate more for the time being.
How come things are not as good as say last week before this whole mess happned? Will things return to previous levels? How do I get her to initiate more?
Does she need more time?
Please help!!! Thanks!!