no sex, losing motivation

**anonymoose** · 27-10-09, 11:06 AM

hi, ive been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and eight months. We're both over the legal age, to give you an age range... when we started dating we jumped to oral quickly, within the first two weeks, considering we had never done anything like it before. but ive wanted sex for awhile. she doesn't. she has told me that she wants me to be her first and shit but im not sure if i believe it anymore. ive respected her choice and waited for her for a long time now but i feel like im losing motivation im almost convinced its not going to happen. our relationship seems to becoming boring and repetitive and i think its making our lives stale as well. im not sure what to do.

help!

**happyhippo85** · 27-10-09, 11:34 AM

hi buddy, sex is something mutual and special.. there is perfectly nothing wrong to having it say after marriage..

in a mature real relationship, sex should never be the main basis.. but of course it is important.. just that if your partner is not ready, she has her rights.. and if you are really in love with her and serious, you should understand this and be happy she is not "easy"

concentrate on emotional love etc... sex is not everything

**anonymoose** · 27-10-09, 11:40 AM

I'm not saving it for marriage and neither is she.

my partner wont talk to me about sex. if i do she gets really angry.

you make it seem as if i don't appreciate her...

**NeoSeminole** · 27-10-09, 11:50 AM

break up with her. You will eventually become resentful and your relationship will fail. Might as well end it now.

**happyhippo85** · 27-10-09, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by anonymoose

I'm not saving it for marriage and neither is she.

my partner wont talk to me about sex. if i do she gets really angry.

you make it seem as if i don't appreciate her...

nope that is not what i meant... what i am trying to say is.. she has everyright to not want to talk about sex... and if you really love her, you should take it slow and find out why etc ... dont get upset or not motivated..

am also telling u sex is not everything... emotional love is impt too.. so dont get too bothered by it buddy!

most impt in relationship is both are happy ! i wish for u and her to be happy too

**anonymoose** · 28-10-09, 05:26 AM

ive been happy. ive accepted her choice for a long time. i just think not talking about sex is very healthy for our relationship. I obviously want it and shes told me a few times that she wanted to as well. she says that we dont communicate well enough to have sex. well **** that she wont talk to me....

uff. im ranting now...

anyways ive done all the nice things, ive taken her places, had great dates and been very passionate. i do love her and unless shes just saying it back she loves me too. but theres something about sex that just makes her flip...

**girl68** · 28-10-09, 05:34 AM

Dump her. She has 1 too many strikes against her.

1-over a year is a long time to wait even if you are a virgin. If she's not waiting for marriage I do wonder what she is waiting FOR? Over a year, in theroy she should love you, so if it ain't marriage what is it?
2-she refuses to even talk about it!

To me that's all the reason in the world to dump her.

**Chupacabras** · 28-10-09, 05:36 AM

Over a year and a half and she won't even talk about sex? And you're over 18?

I'm with Neo; that's way too long to just be in oraltown. You've been a trooper waiting this long but if she doesn't think she's ready to sleep with you, she never will be.

**Gigabitch** · 28-10-09, 05:39 AM

The fact that she won't even talk to you about it is a dealbreaker, in my opinion.

**anonymoose** · 28-10-09, 05:43 AM

shes 21 im 20.

**Gigabitch** · 28-10-09, 05:43 AM

Is there any idea what the hell is wrong with her?

Wait, is she this girl?:

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/intimate-forum/35400-whats-wrong-world.html[/url]

**girl68** · 28-10-09, 06:56 AM

BAHAHAHA giga...

That weird-o talk about it though... no wait, she lectures about the you-know-what...

**RonHH** · 28-10-09, 07:20 AM

(and now the old dude from out in left field talks......)
I wish I could find a woman that just wanted to do oral and then I wouldn't have to strain my heart.

I know this doesn't help but we need a break now and then !!!

**anonymoose** · 28-10-09, 07:35 AM

strain your neck returning the favor...

**RonHH** · 28-10-09, 07:39 AM

Originally Posted by anonymoose

strain your neck returning the favor...

I guess you could !!!
My post was in ref. to a Dr. Hook song True lovin

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