money in a relationship

[PussyCatDoll]

my bfs parents and mine got together for the first time a while back and i can't help but feel hurt by the whole event.

we've been together 4 years (at christmas), and are pretty serious about eachother, so i expected the conversations to be based around us at the very least.


what i guess you have to know is, my bf loves me very much. he's just graduated from uni and wants to/ currently is starting his own business. obviously being young, hes going to be struggling for a while financially. his family are not well off at all. its really his older siblings who are supporting them and stuff.

my family is kinda well off in comparison to his.and aaaaaaall the conversations where based on money. it just went on and on and on. no one mentioned us. it was like we weren't even there. it really did seem like his family were in awe over money.

and this has hurt me. i don't really know what to think of it. especially since his parents are telling me people we're getting engaged (when we're not).

someone please shed some advice, giga..vash..

[qwertz]

put them straight about getting engaged, then ignore them, if its not coming between you and your bf then just let them get on with thinking or saying whatever they want.

[PussyCatDoll]

^ that can't be a good. they are his parents

and i have told him to set them straight

thanks

[qwertz]

i meant ignore there talking about money- not in general.

[Steven-exploded]

You must be feeling neglected by his parents. But it could be understandable that they focus on the money...because his parents are not well off (as you mentioned).

You could try to approach his parents, and letting them know how you truly feel, or tell your bf and maybe let him talk to his parents, in order to set the record straight.

If you really feel hurt by this by a big amount then I suggest you talking to his parents with your bf, connect with them emotionally, understand that they focus on the money probably because they are short of it, but you need to feel included (like a part of the family).

They're human beings, and they'll understand i'm sure.

Hope that helps

Steven

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• The higher you rise financially, the bigger the temptation.
• Husband and wife should be equal partners, don’t compete (run your finances jointly)
• Have a family financial vision and set a plan for achieving that vision.