Help Needed

[KoolSIM]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new here and am looking for advice on a matter.

I'm good friends with this girl. Somewhere down the road, I started to develop feelings for her probably because we started meeting everyday and also talked at nights online or on the phone. I still don't have a satisfactory answer for the feelings, but I threw caution to the wind and decided to overcome all my mental blocks and ask her out. Not surprisingly, she rejected me.

I got the 'I care for you, but only as a friend. Thats it. I can't reciprocate these feelings.' I got the usual 'I don't want to see you get hurt and also hurt myself' and all.

I don't know how I rebuild this mess now. But I still like her. Will being persistent from time to time help? How do I get some chemistry into this now?

I would really appreciate any kind of help.

[Gigabitch]

You are in that tangled web we like to call the Friend Zone.

I suggest you take a break from her, find a girlfriend and try to change the perception this friend of yours has about you. If she sees another girl hanging all over you, she might start to see you as an attractive male. Right now, you're a Ken doll.

[KoolSIM]

She did also say that if she feels something about me in the future, she'll come to me herself.................but I feel thats just a carrot shez dangling to distract me for now!

I am kinda stuck in this for now.

[girl68]

If you persist you will get dumped as a friend. Giga is right, take a break from her.

[KoolSIM]

So there's absolutely nothing I can do about this?

[girl68]

No. She doesn't like you back.

[Syph]

So there's absolutely nothing I can do about this?

Forget her. I made that mistake twice, but never again.

Women love to use guy friends as a pillow, not a boyfriend. Walk away from her and see how she takes it.

If she is indifferent, then I have proved my point...

Sorry, pal.

[KoolSIM]

Well I guess thats the end then...........

Walking away from her is going to be tough since we go to the same university and take the same classes and also live close to each other.

But I'll do my best.

Thanks everyone!