I really need advice from women with relevant experience on this one:
several months ago an old girlfriend discovered me online (we live in different countries), and from word to word things got intimate. It was her initiative and I was very cautious as she is married and has a child; when I raised this I received an explanation that things with her husband are not going well, they co-exist but do not have a real relationship; we went on, things got more serious (as much as they could be online) and she came to the point of stating that she wants to be with me (it was also clear before that from questions and behaviour that she is testing this, I'm not talking about sex here but coexistence). Her husband was spying on her facebook account and found what was going on, they had an argument and reportedly decided to get divorced. Her family saw her as the guilty one, she was blamed to be not thinking about her child, and everyone tried to convince her to go back to him. She is not capable of supporting herself, she is very emotional and also very close to her family so she went back. As soon as it happened she restablished contact with me stating that this is only temporary and does not change things for her, so our online contact went on and deeper. When she found that I was planning to visit the country where she lives, she asked me to spend a week with her. Before my trip her husband spied on her again and this time they did separate for two weeks, the second of which I spend with her: it was great time and, judging by the way she behaved, including in bed, I was sure that she has confimed the seriousness of her feelings for me. I did offer her to support her and make changes in my life so that we can be together...Surprisingly (or not) she decided to go back to her husband and asked for time...we stayed in touch and I could say she was hesitating, obviously in a conflict with her feelings and her rational concern about the risks she is taking for herself and her child in case of a divorce. Eventually, I got a message that she has decided to try to repair her marriage as the father was now treating the kid better, and she could not take such a risk for the kid, she will remember the time I spend with u as the best in my life, etc...it ended up with something like "do not try to change my mind, and confuse me even more"...I tried and asked that she at least waits and sees if she can really repair her relationship (which apparently has never been very good), and also get a real sense if her feelings to me are true. We agreed to not be in contact for a while...well, it was only two days after that when she started sending messages that she cannot stop thinking about me, followed by more and more emotional statements, eventually telling me that she loves me even more now...
Ladies, what is happenning in her mind?