What to do? strange behavior

[Ace1972]

Update.

Thanks for the posts folks. Her son and her are open about sexual things, but she does not want something to happen on "her watch". She has talked at length to him about how to protect himself. She knows that things may happen, but she does not want to provide the opporunity for it to happen.

As for the recent developments-Well, we wrestled in the pool (she loves that sort of thing) and there was much laughing and carrying on. When it came time for bed, she put her arm around me (she knows this is how I like to sleep) and I kissed her (slight kiss back). I told her I loved her, and she mumbled what sounded like "I love you too".

Still no touches which we used to do all the time. I do not mean sexual touching either. I heard her say "thanks babe" one time, but did not know whether it was a mistake or not on her part when she was reading an email I sent her-it was the love chapter of the bible. I told her that was how I felt about her.

As we were going to sleep we had a conversation about what I miss about how we were. I said I missed the pet names, and the touching--just us. I should say that through out this we have been showering together in the morning as we always have. Anyway, when I mentioned that to her, she said that when she is angry she shuts everything down and it takes time to turn it all back on. I can appreciate that, but think that enough time has passed.....

As I said, Sunday we are going away--it is to be a romantic weekend. I just hope that it is the reconnection I am craving.

[Charlie Boy II]

harden the f-ck up Ace.

[Ace1972]

Ouch. Thats harsh. I like being able to talk about my feelings.

[Charlie Boy II]

So I see.

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[Gigabitch]

Charlie! For God's sake, there are enough he-men around here. Let him gush. I think it's wonderful.

Go ahead, Ace. Make Charlie Boy throw up in his mouth.

[Charlie Boy II]

I bet it's turning his girlfriend right off, ''honey, why haven't you been calling me pet names?'' "I just hope its the reconnection I am craving'' jesus christ, get a grip.

[Ace1972]

Charlie, do your knuckles scrape the ground much?

I'm in touch with my feelings and most women appreciate that--as most men, like you it seems, try to keep everything inside and "be a man". For me, being a man is being honest with myself and my partner, creating a bond that will never be broken. For if you can share your feelings in a real intimate way with a loved one, there is nothing better.

[Charlie Boy II]

I don't keep anything inside. I guess I'm just not blessed with the capcity to soak myself in emotion over a spat with my girlfriend.

[Ace1972]

Anger does not count, Charlie--you need to be able express sadness and joy as well.

I also write poetry-bet that doesn't suprise you. "soaking yourself in emotion" is a good thing from time to time, you know. You might do your gf a favor.

[Charlie Boy II]

Actually I think people like you, and a lot of people on these boards have too much emotion. It's maladaptive. It makes them angst-ridden and miserable. Little things have a big impact on their well-being. Things that don't matter soak up all their energy. I buzz along at a steady pace of general contentment.

[girl68]

She is coming around! Screw her brains out she will definately spit out an "I LOVE YOU!"

[Charlie Boy II]

girl68 you sound kind of hot

[Ace1972]

Actually I think people like you, and a lot of people on these boards have too much emotion. It's maladaptive. It makes them angst-ridden and miserable. Little things have a big impact on their well-being. Things that don't matter soak up all their energy. I buzz along at a steady pace of general contentment.

Little things do affect things-I actually CARE that my gf and are having a fight-I will not write it off as something like a storm that will blow over with me doing nothing. Your "steady pace" may work for you, but when you care, sometimes things happen and you need to recongize them.

[Ace1972]

She is coming around! Screw her brains out she will definately spit out an "I LOVE YOU!"

Thats the plan this weekend. ;-)
Physical reconnection is important.

[girl68]

girl68 you sound kind of hot

What if I was fat and hideous!? LOL