Looking at big boobs

[pocoyo]

Hi, I just want to gain a bit of perspective really.

I have been with my boyfriend for one year. I have small breasts. On his computer history there are so many searches for big boobs...pictures and videos etc.

Do you think he feels like he is missing out because I have small boobs? He says it's not like that and he just thinks they look erotic. But i can't help but feel that he feels i am not enough for him. I am having a breast increase when I have saved the money up. This is something I want for myself. But, it will be a while yet. I just really wanted to gain some perspective and see what anyone thinks of the situation. Or whether anyone has any experience?

Thanks. Pocoyo.

[miSSleepy]

yeah I have small boobs too and when I found porn on my bf's computer (ages ago) I couldn't help but think "does he think he's missing out? I don't look like that....should I have those boobs? Does he want those boobs?".

How long have you been with your bf? How often does he look at this porn? Is your sex life up to par? Does he give you any other signs that he's not happy with your boobs?

[pocoyo]

Our sex life is quite complex. My bf is bi and we talk to other guys and plan to have a thressome.

He likes the look of big boobs. He never says anything bad about my boobs. He says i have nice boobs and good nipples. But even still, i can't help but feel inadequate. He does really like my body because i am slim and work out so i am toned too. He always tells me i have areally sexy body. So, i know when i get my boobs enlarged i will feel sexy as anything. He tries to pay attention to my boobs during sex but i stop him. That's really unsexy but it makes me cringe and feel insecure. Pluse, they have shrank since doing my training. :s

[girl68]

Our sex life is quite complex. My bf is bi and we talk to other guys and plan to have a thressome.

He likes the look of big boobs. He never says anything bad about my boobs. He says i have nice boobs and good nipples. But even still, i can't help but feel inadequate. He does really like my body because i am slim and work out so i am toned too. He always tells me i have areally sexy body. So, i know when i get my boobs enlarged i will feel sexy as anything. He tries to pay attention to my boobs during sex but i stop him. That's really unsexy but it makes me cringe and feel insecure. Pluse, they have shrank since doing my training. :s

You know what men hate? Insecurity. I know becasue I have the opposite problem which is actaully the same. My bf likes small boobs, I have big ones. He looks at small ones all the freaking time. So how does that make me feel? Terrible. What does he do about it? Assure me (like yours does to you...) that he does love mine, thinks I'm beautiful, and wouldn't trade my boobs for small ones anyday. Catch me on a bad day and I won't believe him. Catch me on a good day (most days) I do. So my question: do you really think he's lying right to your face? (Honestly).

If he wanted to trade them do you really think he'd say "you have a sexy body" "you have nice boobs and good nipples?" NO, he wouldn't if he wanted to lie, or not tell you the truth statements like that would not be what comes out of his mouth. So when he pays you a compliment learn this rule hard and fast: BELIEVE HIM.

If he hated your boobs, he wouldn't touch them. You said so yourself he pays attention to them- you don't let him. How much of a turn off is THAT? He doesn't hate your boobs- YOU DO. Learn to love them, they're small- so what?

And be very careful about implants- it sounds like you're getting them for all the wrong reasons, just the once major insecurity, that doesn't go away with a knife, slit, and insert all you'll do is move your focus to another "imperfection" on your body. It will NOT solve all the problems in your life.

[_bebedreams]

i don't think he's missing out at all.

[Junket]

He tries to pay attention to my boobs during sex but i stop him. That's really unsexy but it makes me cringe and feel insecure.

Are you serious?

Would you feel better if he ignored your tits all together?

Here's a tip.

Even after you buy your fake boobs, he's still going to look up big tit porn.

Just think about that.

[girl68]

Would you feel better if he ignored your tits all together?

Here's a tip.

Even after you buy your fake boobs, he's still going to look up big tit porn.

Just think about that.

She wouldn't feel not one bit better if he ignored them, she'd feel even worse because now, he obviously hates her small boobs.

And as I said, getting your fake tits isn't going to solve this problem, Fras is right, he will still check out big tits.

[CocoChanel]

Don't you just wish men could look at you and nothing else? LOL!
Wish Wish Wish.
No matter how pretty you are, or how much you have...
They are always going to look at something and someone else.
Nothing is never good enough.

[Liza]

Hey... I actually ended up getting breast implants... and i have to say that i regret it because i felt prettier when i was petite in all areas of my body even my breast... I would not change anything at all if i were you... I am actually planning to have them removed... I think i was beautiful the way i look... and frankly ... i just want someone that loves me for me... so be mindful before you make changes to your body for just a guy

[I Found Him]

Hey. I think that everyone so far has had valid points but have you tried thinking about it from the other persepective? Men are men.... but women are women too. Come on, when you're with a guy with a smaller penis, don't you ever look or think about bigger ones? Likewise, when you're with a guy with a big penis, isn't there something appealing about something a bit more compact?

My point is, that it's all natural to have these thoughts. What I think is unfair is to expose you to these thoughts or fantasies. Talk to him and tell him that you're uncomfortable with him being so explicit. How would he feel if he saw on your computer something that was the antithesis of him?

You guys need to start working on fantasies that you can act out together. You need to give him access to those mammas. And I'm kinda on board with those that say don't change your body. Easy for me to say with DD's but then i've got a big ol' booty which is by far perfect.

[boobaa]

Hi, I just want to gain a bit of perspective really.

I have been with my boyfriend for one year. I have small breasts. On his computer history there are so many searches for big boobs...pictures and videos etc.

Do you think he feels like he is missing out because I have small boobs? He says it's not like that and he just thinks they look erotic. But i can't help but feel that he feels i am not enough for him. I am having a breast increase when I have saved the money up. This is something I want for myself. But, it will be a while yet. I just really wanted to gain some perspective and see what anyone thinks of the situation. Or whether anyone has any experience?

Thanks. Pocoyo.

Are you shure you want breast implants? I mean, they can cause some health hazards, plus, will you be able to feed a child with them?

Have you talked about implants with your boyfriend yet?

Maybe you should tell her directly that it makes you feel down that he looks big breasts, a normal bf shouldn't mind stuff like that, because he is with you.




In my opinion, as a male, sometimes looking at breasts is like looking something stricking, like a beautiful flower in a forest or something like that. My current girlfriend has somewhat wider bone than I, makes her look a bit chubby, but I am perfectly ok with her body, I even love it. But when I see a picture of some nice skinny girl, I look at it and think whoa, but I know for a fact that never it would replace my gf, especially since sex is such an intimate thing.
But I guess it depends on a guy though.

My 2 cents.