Description of the Shining Knight Syndrome

[Junket]

Refer to this should anyone come along that needs a good slap in the face with reality.

Unless you just came out of a coma, you know that the late Anna Nicole Smith's ex-boyfriend is Larry Birkhead. He has been in the news since he announced he was the father of Dannielynn. One interviewer asked him why he continued to stay in the relationship despite Anna Nicole's drug use. He said he thought he could "save her". He had "knight in shining armor syndrome".

In her book, "Why We Love" author Helen Fisher states that: millions of years of protecting and providing for women has bred into the male brain this tendency to choose women they feel they need to save. What separates man from animal is his ability to think and reason. Just because it may be natural for men to be chivalrous, it doesn't mean they can't place a limit on just how far they will go.

Should they open a door, pull out a chair, take a woman's hand when crossing the street or give her their jacket if she's cold? Absolutely. Should they try to save a woman whose life is a mess? They do so at their own peril.

Men try to save damsels in distress because it makes them feel powerful, in control and manly. Sometimes they are afraid of women and think they won't be rejected if they fix a woman's problems. They hide their inadequacies behind what looks like strength. They know they don't have their act together, so instead of working on themselves they'd rather work on someone else. Such relationships are doomed to fail.

If these men really were strong, they would not be trying to save someone that appears to be a victim. They don't realize that aside from a few circumstances beyond one's control (acts of God, accidents, disease, etc.) one's position in life is based on who they are on the inside, not someone or something "out there". There is an axiom that says: There are no victims, only volunteers.

Knights believe that if the woman gets better, she'll become the perfect girlfriend. The only problem is that if she does become healthy, she will not want to be with someone who is so flawed that he tolerated being with a "broken-winged bird". Healthy people do not want to be with unhealthy people.

On the other hand, if she doesn't get better, the man will never have the perfect girlfriend because he won't get his needs met. In addition, his fears of an intimate relationship will not be repaired by staying with an inadequate woman. It's a no-win situation.

Why else do men choose damsels in distress? According to Dr. Laura in her book, "Ten Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives" other reasons for "stupid chivalry" are: guilt for past transgressions and lifestyles, feelings of real or imagined inadequacies, fear of the pain of abandonment, loneliness, ego aggrandizement, fears about women's (aka Mom's) approval and acceptance and a fragmented sense of masculinity. If you're currently trying to be a knight in shining armor, what's your reason?

Just because a man doesn't acknowledge that a woman is responsible for her circumstances, it doesn't mean those same circumstances won't come back to bite him in the butt at some future date. Larry Birkhead's life is now chaotic as the result of trying to save a woman whose life was chaotic. Would you want to be in his shoes?

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[BoredGeorge]

Women are the cause of all evil.

[Zinite]

Men try to save damsels in distress because it makes them feel powerful, in control and manly.

Unqualified statement. The rest spews forth logically from your handily variable subgroup of all knights.

[Yggdrasil]

Gosh people tend to make things complicated.

They have to be nice (nice guy syndrome), they have to please (people pleasers), they have to fix others or take care of others (knight in shining armor syndrome, florence nightingale effect), they have to act like they are the supreme male (macho man syndrome), they think they are god (superiority complex) and so on.

What's wrong with this picture?

Are we all so disconnected from our inner selves and whom we really are that we have to pretend being something else, that we have to fix others to feel good, that we have to please others to feel gratified, that we have to pretend to be divine to have self worth?

BTW: the perfect woman shits gold bricks and pees lemonade.

[ramjab16]

Is this good or bad?

=?

[ed604]

I like to feel in control though it's just natural

[Bulletz]

Lol, this looks like my current relationship. She's even called me her 'Knight in Shining Armor' lmfao.

Think I need to fix a few things.

[sofrie33]

yeap! i totally agree with that!

[MrNiceGuy]

This is the dumbest, most overdone and boring thread I have ever seen on this subject.

And it just goes to show that you people are stupid.

[Junket]

This is the dumbest, most overdone and boring thread I have ever seen on this subject.

And it just goes to show that you people are stupid.

Don't get upset just because it's beyond your comprehension.

[MrNiceGuy]

Don't get upset just because it's beyond your comprehension.

You assume too much.

I see nothing wrong with women in this world who want a strong man. Too many women in our culture have been brought up by alcoholics, users and abusers. Women need to be treated well

Too many women walk in darkness alone in our culture. They are missing something. I don't find anyone who is well adjusted in our culture as sane. Too many women are without love. That is what this forum is about.
That goes for the one above who forgets what his screen name really means!LOL

Or maybe he is just a kike.

Most of you people who posted on this thread prove that you don't believe in love.

[Junket]

You assume too much.

I see nothing wrong with women in this world who want a strong man. Too many women in our culture have been brought up by alcoholics, users and abusers. Women need to be treated well

Too many women walk in darkness alone in our culture. They are missing something. I don't find anyone who is well adjusted in our culture as sane. Too many women are without love. That is what this forum is about.
That goes for the one above who forgets what his screen name really means!LOL

Or maybe he is just a kike.

Most of you people who posted on this thread prove that you don't believe in love.

Hush baby, hush.

[thecoach]

Do these men really exist? Never met one.

[Mish]

I see nothing wrong with women in this world who want a strong man. Too many women in our culture have been brought up by alcoholics, users and abusers. Women need to be treated well

Too many women walk in darkness alone in our culture. They are missing something. I don't find anyone who is well adjusted in our culture as sane. Too many women are without love. That is what this forum is about.

MNG, can you read? This is not what the article or what this thread is about. You are going off on a tangent that has nothing to do with the topic.

[IndiReloaded]

Too many women walk in darkness alone in our culture. They are missing something. I don't find anyone who is well adjusted in our culture as sane. Too many women are without love. That is what this forum is about.

Dude, Darkness? LOL. You sound like you've been watching too many PUA vids on youtube.

I'm not sure I completely disagree with you about the insanity in our present society. I wonder tho if you would recognize a sane individual if you stumbled on one. Anyway, that was a really funny post.

[Yggdrasil]

I think it would be a man with a sufficiently sized dick that ejaculated chocolate. And money. But not at the same time.

My reply to that would be: I am willing to accomodate you by covering my penis with chocolate cream (that's about as close as it will get), but the money you'll have to earn yourself by finding and keeping a stable job. And if that's not good enough, there's the door, don't let it hit your ass on your way out.