Not feeling it!

[naomi008]

Hi not sure if this is in the right forum but here goes.

I'm kind of seeing this guy who I've been friends with for a long time. He's told me he really likes me and all the stuff he wants to do..I kind of like him sometimes..well actually quite a lot of the time but there's certain things he does that completely put me off. Anyway, I wasn't sure whether I wanted to take things further as I'm not completely sure on how I feel but he assured me that it was alright if we both just had fun with each other. So that's what we've been doing but I've realised I actually don't really feel anything when we do stuff together..I like fantasizing about him and stuff but then when we're actually together its so different. He's so into it but I don't really feel excited or anything at all!!

I think this kind of makes me realise I shouldn't be with him..coz surely I should be feeling something :S
What would you say I should do in this situation? I don't know how to explain it to him without really hurting his feelings!!

[mountaingirl]

i guess you aren't feeling it with him because he has been a friend and it seems hard to move on from that stage. maybe give it some more time? do you still act like friends but now with "extras" are do you date? maybe the boundaries are a little unclear between friends and bf/gf.

[Only-virgins]

If you aren't completely happy just don't go with it.