I got a lot of great feedback in my first post on here(thanks all that replied) so maybe someone can help me with something I feel is more complex.
Since my girlfriend and I broke up in November of last year, I have been with 9 women, 3 of whom were friends before or around the time my last relationship began(2 years and change). It has been the same pattern with virtually all of them, except the one that moved away. Together for 3 or 4 intense days, with a lot of intimacy, and I don't just mean sex. So after the initial fling, I guess is what to call it, they pretty much just cut me off. I don't know why, I try to give them some space and not be so clingy. Here is the part that really throws me, and makes me wonder what is wrong with me or what I'm doing wrong. Anywhere from 1 week to a month after this cut off, I will get a call or a text like this one, verbatim from my phone, "Hey I really need your help with something, can you come over?" "You should come over my roommate's gone for the weekend". This has happened with 7 of them in as many months , damn near, and I'm still "seeing" 4 of them when they randomly "need help" or some shit, she didn't even say what with, why be so blatant.
It really eats me because I was really into each of them as a person when I met them and I can't figure out why they are so eager to jump in bed, but don't want to go to dinner anything like that with me. I'm a guy that actually wants to take you out and get to know you. I know I'm not without my flaws but I think I have a lot to offer emotionally and spiritually, and it makes me wonder what makes them think I'm so screwed up. It has to be something with me that pushes them away since it's a repeating pattern, and they are different and cool in their own ways, right?
I was really confused by the ones I didn't know so well, but I was really hurt when 2 of my friends pulled this stunt. I just don't get why no one wants to date me, I'm not even asking for a full blown relationship off the bat. Recently it has really started to bother me and make me question myself.