iv had years of counceling and come to terms with all thats happend in my life but i dident post on here to be told i need counceling, i was just looking for some advice on my situation
iv had years of counceling and come to terms with all thats happend in my life but i dident post on here to be told i need counceling, i was just looking for some advice on my situation
Suit yourself. Going counseling is the best advice you'll ever get.
You show signs of dysfunctional behaviour when it comes to relations. I am quite sure your parents have given you all the tools needed to have a healthy, non-toxic relation considering your father was abusive.
I'll repeat my advice one more time: go couple or marriage counseling with that girl so you both learn how to have a healthy relation, if you care that much about her and your relation with her. You can thank me 20 years down the road for this.
Take it or leave it.
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Couples or marriage counseling? She's only 16!
Hey popous, I'm not surprised - given your background - that you chose a girl with such disturbing family dynamics as a suitable match. My original advice stands, but I want to add that you should be mindful that boys like you often find themselves in "shining knight syndome" scenarios. Do what you like with regards to this girl, and remember that you are not a therapist, and you can't "save" her. She needs therapy.
To the rest of you - I told you so. haha
Maybe in the Ozarks. It doens't matter though - marriage wasn't even mentioned, and quite frankly is a ridiculous thought for a 16 year old.
Thanks. I guess you could call me "certified blunt".
dont get me wrong im not trying to "save" her or councel her, infact i woddent mind if the whole thing just dissaperd, i posted on here just to find out what other people would do given my situation but for the most part iv been critasized and lectured with the exception of some posts that i am truley grateful for, i love her and im with her (hopefully for a long time to come) and as far as im concernd thats the end of it all, thankyou to everyone for there input
Consentual teenage sex happens "rarely, very rarely" does it?
Tell me Yggdrasi tell me what planet you come from? Is it the same planet where people call the Police because they're not getting along with their housemate?
I love this condescending way you spout this utter bullshit. You're a moron.
Edit: I just read the rest of the thread. I think just about all of you are a pack of morons. She's the ''victim'' and he's ''a manipulative rapist''? No of you have the faintest idea of the circumstances!! And you're all talking like you saw the whole thing happen.
Last edited by Charlie Boy II; 12-06-09 at 10:46 PM.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
This is, far and away, the most ridiculous bit of advice I've ever read on here.
1. You insist he go to counselling though he's just told you he's been in counselling for years!! Not only that, you suggest marriage counselling! For an 18 year old and a 16 year old! And then you tell him that gem is ''the best advice you'll ever get''.
2. You tell him you are ''quite sure'' that his abusive father has given him ''all the tools for a healthy, non-toxic relationship''. Quite sure are you? Is that why those with abusive parents are often so well adjusted?!
I really think if you were here in front of me I'd smack you in the mouth.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
i'm having a greg and marsha moment.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
^^^ oh, no, don't cast aspertions on my maturity. f-ck off tool.
edit: ah **** Misombra, get out of the way.
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
charlieboy is a little wee wee.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.