Should I give up???

[Hope09]

Hi, new to the forum. Here's the situation. I am very much interested in this guy that's in my golf league. We have a mutual friend, and ask this friend if this guy is single. Well, my friend said that I asked for his status....so I "assumed" he knows I'm interested in him.

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to email this guy that I'm interested to see if he wanted to go golfing and lo and behold he said sure. By the way, we live pretty close.

So, we went golfing and had a great time. By the time we got done golfing, I said "hey if you want to golf let me know". And he was like "sure"...so I just "blurted" out how about next week, so he said that would be fine.

The 2nd time we went golfing he said he had a really good time. After golfing, we decided to go out and grab a bit to eat as to avoid traffic and he bought dinner. He can write it off on his taxes as he is self employed. Anyways, after he dropped me off, I thought "well, I'll just let him invite me golfing". Now, I have already invited him twice. Well, I waited several days and decided to ask him again if he wanted to go golfing and again he said yes.

Ok, I have invited him 3 times and he has yet to invite me. Is he interested or what??? He always says "yes" to when I ask him to go golfing. Don't you think inviting him 3 times and having our mutual friend ask for his status will let him get the hint that I am interested?

[Yggdrasil]

From the looks of it, he seems more interested right now in his golf game than in you. It's possible he's not a needy person and takes his sweet time to ask you, which btw, is a good thing.

You emailed him, so he has your email address. Don't contact him for about 2 weeks (even if you feel like it, but it should be fairly easy right now to do so, since you guys have nothing going yet).

See if he contacts you. That'll tell you plenty.

[Hope09]

well, I will be in contact with him this weekend because we are golfing. How long does it take for him to show interests? 2 weeks seems like a long time....LOL.

I figure since he knows I am interested in him, I thought that would help in him emailing or calling me.

I don't know, maybe after we golf this weekend, I should just give up.

[Hope09]

C'mon men, please help a woman out. I am very much interested in the guy.

[IndiReloaded]

I think you need to wait, as Ygg said. A man who is interested in a woman will make the time to communicate. If you don't hear anything from him after a couple weeks, you'll know.

Good luck.

[Mish]

I agree with the others, if he doesn't call you after this it will be a good indication of his interest.

[Tim Jones]

ASK HIM!!!! Meaning, just say... "Hey, I have invited you several times now, but you have not invited me to anything. If I was someone else, I would think you were being a little insensitive, but I know you are not that way. What is the deal?"..

So you know, guys like it when you are gracefully direct. Chances are he probably just does not know what to think about you yet, and since you have been doing everything you are making it easy for him...

[Hope09]

Thanks for your response. By the way, he is very humble.

We are golfing this weekned. Please wish me luck as I am very interested in this guy. I will let him know "hey I have invited you 3 times to go golfing and I will wait until you ask me". Is that ok to say?

[Doc Durian]

Don't listen to Tim Jones... he's got it wrong on the dating front....

Your guy sounds reserved.... don't push him. Give it time to come to fruition... you've got a shared interest.... shouldn't be hard.

[lastwish]

NOOO!! DON'T be like "hey, I have invited you 3 times, how come you never invite me?" That just makes you sound demanding and overly needy. I agree with the others who said to wait a little bit. Also, don't invite him out again until he has begin inviting you out because you want to change his passive mode to aggressive mode. And if he does indeed likes you then he will be more aggressive in the future.

[bluesummer]

I have a lot of golfers in my life, and I can guarantee they'd never turn down an offer to play, with anyone.

Like the others said, don't approach him about it.....it appears kind of desperate. My experience has shown, if they don't contact you after you inviting them out a ton of times, they aren't interested in you that way. Also, if all you ever do is golf, you may just be golf buddies in his mind. After this round, I would sit back and leave the ball in his court. Don't put any pressure on him. If he stays distant, move on.

Btw, I'm not trying to drag you down, it's just better to see the more realistic end of things so you don't build your hopes up so high they come crashing down on your head.

[Paul Lasaro]

"...get the hint that I am interested?"

Sure! You're just starting game. Different from golf.

[Yggdrasil]

Thanks for your response. By the way, he is very humble.

We are golfing this weekned. Please wish me luck as I am very interested in this guy. I will let him know "hey I have invited you 3 times to go golfing and I will wait until you ask me". Is that ok to say?

Bad move

Let HIM come to YOU... Gosh.. I am going to have to teach you the basics of fishing

[Gigabitch]

I think he's trying to let you down easy. If you confront him, you'll be crossing a line that exists to protect your own feelings.

[Lite]

Challenge him to a round of strip golf next.