Gringo Syndrome

[LoveHurts09]

err do posts just vanish now? i believe an elle post was active untill recently actually.

this thread however is stupid, ur going to cheat on ur gf, u dont respect women, why do we care?
i mean what are u even looking for? advice for what?
and the women ur with just sound like sluts to me, if they are so perfect then why are they so desperate?

[Rollerderby]

Well... let's see... I have my bedside personality, bed top personality, off the bed personality... on the couch, in the bathtub, on the bonnet of the car, in the wo...

...how many do you need to get you through?

I was thinking more like, Ian for one. Ian and Elle and Neo and Doc.


Atleast Doc is sane.

[Sonrisa]

err do posts just vanish now? i believe an elle post was active untill recently actually.

this thread however is stupid, ur going to cheat on ur gf, u dont respect women, why do we care?
i mean what are u even looking for? advice for what?
and the women ur with just sound like sluts to me, if they are so perfect then why are they so desperate?

exactly my point

[Doc Durian]

err do posts just vanish now? i believe an elle post was active untill recently actually.

this thread however is stupid, ur going to cheat on ur gf, u dont respect women, why do we care?

We?

Nevermind the fact that the future is unknown, my upbringing adequate, and moral compass still functioning... although capable of a complete polarity shift (even I can't discount that possibility)

i mean what are u event looking for? advice for what?
and the women ur with just sound like sluts to me, if they are so perfect then why are they so desperate?

Because I'm me.

[Mish]

I want the fidelity, I need sex dammit...

Well, which one is it then?

Like most things in life, I think this is an issue of self perception. You have to ask yourself, what kind of a person are you? Are you someone who cheats on his girlfriend when it is convenient? Are you someone who breaks up with his girlfriend when in convenient situations? Are you someone who is true to his fidelity and commitments even when it is difficult to do so? These are probably the questions that you will need to answer to yourself with your actions.

[Doc Durian]

Thanks Mishanya, I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else.

My gf and I need to talk things over the next time I see her in person. I want to stay with her, but I'm not happy with the situation we're in. Things need to change for the better or I will have to move on.

I won't however allow temptations to grab me now. I expect to see her in the not too distant future at any rate.

I have no idea how this all going to turn out, but it's best that something happens.

[Mish]

Fortunately I found that it's not that hard to not be tempted. It's actually, the easiest thing in the world. Just spend less time looking good in the morning, wear whatever, spend less time in places where girls hang out and more time doing athletic hermit activities like cycling or running (which is a healthy thing to do anyway). You have a choice to distance yourself from temptation. Personally I think you owe your gf a talk, or a chance for things to improve before you allow yourself something convenient. Yeah, commitment is a bitch.

[Doc Durian]

Fortunately I found that it's not that hard to not be tempted. It's actually, the easiest thing in the world. Just spend less time looking good in the morning, wear whatever, spend less time in places where girls hang out and more time doing athletic hermit activities like cycling or running (which is a healthy thing to do anyway). You have a choice to distance yourself from temptation. Personally I think you owe your gf a talk, or a chance for things to improve before you allow yourself something convenient. Yeah, commitment is a bitch.

Odd as though it may sound, I do most of those things anyway. It's like being Chris from Northern Exposure during his gland period of the year.

And yes, I will return soon for a couple of weeks. Her and I will be talking.

I felt like this before arriving here, so it's probably been a long time coming... pardon the pun.

[vashti]

I don't know how old you are, but you sound too young to be celibate. Although Mish seems to imply a different mindset, I don't see any reason why you should feel bad for breaking off with your girlfriend if she is not a match for you sexually.

Actually, why do you stay with her?

[Mish]

Although Mish seems to imply a different mindset, I don't see any reason why you should feel bad for breaking off with your girlfriend if she is not a match for you sexually.

My mind set is to encourage him not to cheat on his gf. Either to break it off with her or to stay committed.

I'm just a bit over people finding faults in their relationship conveniently at the time when they have a chance with someone else.

[vashti]

Eh, they aren't married. Now's the time to unload her if she isn't making the grade, for whatever reason.

[Doc Durian]

Or give her a summons and chance to make the grade, where as she didn't, wouldn't, couldn't, or refused before.

That's my mindset now... perfect honesty, clear intention, and a smaller window of opportunity than the status quo.

When you put up with something undesirable to you for a long period, you also ratify the behaviour by inactivity or feet dragging.

I wasn't complete before I arrived, didn't know how to arrive at completeness, and now see the clouds from the sky.

Sexual interest is a side issue at this current moment.

Openess, trust, and an established intimacy is a must. Now and forever.

[Doc Durian]

Just as an item of curiosity, had a falling out with two workmates last night. One (both female) told the other to hop out of the elevator in the casino, and after, flat out told the other we we were pashing on. The other workmate felt lied to by myself (about my scruples being plentiful/we've had a lot of close conversations) and lost the plot/took off.

Apparently, all men are liars.

I'm the only one with both sets of facts swimming in my head. I've covered for both so as to not create friction at work.... but something still stinks in the state of Hen-mark...

Cluck cluck?

Handbags at fifty paces?

[vashti]

What is "pashing on"? Do all Aussies speak like you?

[Doc Durian]

Brits, Kiwi's, and probably South Africans I would assume as well.

Pash=kiss=snog