He broke it off

[lovemuffin]

To clarify my concerns about his money spending, because it doesn't look like I mentioned earlier how he had said to me after a few weeks of dating "This isn't the most opportune time for me to be dating. I don't have much $ and I don't have a car" (this after he started putting $ into the instrument after we met...). This was always another reason I was always afraid he was just using me....

He got a car for $100 bucks through a friend about 2 weeks ago. He told me when we met he used to feel awful I used to have to do all the driving (which I always said I didnt mind). He seemed very different after he got the car. He also had started snoring EXTREMELY loud weeks before that to the point I would leave the bed and sleep on the couch downstairs. He said he felt really bad about it and we tried a few different snoring remedies from the drugstore to no avail. Last weekend he asked me to come over and I said I would, but probably wouldn’t stay the night and that I couldn’t continue to stay over because I was losing so much sleep. A big pause on the other end of the phone. The next night he was very distant when I saw him for a movie and at the end didn’t ask for me to stay over, but suggested I spend the night the next night. I agreed but when the next night came he cancelled and also said he needed the whole week off from me. He didn't call me nearly as often that week and I started to wonder if he was going to break it off. He called me one night finally and said I sounded distant and asked if I was mad at him. I said I wasn't. I asked if he was mad at me... he said "not at all". I should also add there have been issues of impotency since the beginning due to medication he's on. Very frustrating for both of us. He went off his meds for a few days and things were much better sexually but he was having a lot of anxiety attacks.

He broke it off with me, via phone, a few days ago. He said he was exposed and vulnerable and seeing things about himself he didn't want to . He also said he was feeling lost and wasn't feeling up for having a relationship (same exact things he had said the week he mentioned he had heard thru the grapevine his ex-g/f was thinking of calling him – he told me she was engaged and was just going to see how he was doing. I had asked him at that time “If she asked you to come back, would you?” He never answered yes or no but just said “It’s never going to happen.”). He also said he's also got too much going on (he's no busier than he was when I met him) and isn't up for a relationship emotionally or physically, can't fall in love now, can't give me what I deserve, and "it's not that I don't want to see you, I just need time to myself." I asked if he had met someone else and he said no, but I'm really not convinced. I told him I thought that it was lousy to break it off over the phone he said "I am being cowardly.. but it's actually big of me to have even called you because in my past I woudln't have even done that and just try to let it fade away". I said I was really confused and asked to talk in person. He said he would but it wouldn't change anything. He blew me off the other day and today and said maybe tomorrow night he could see me.

I don't know what to believe.

[alovehangoverr]

It's over.

It didn't seem like a situation you enjoyed or wanted to be in anyway, so let it go and move on.

[Rollerderby]

He was reading into your suspicion. Maybe there were problems, but you guys weren't really communicating. He knew something was up, and you were probably giving off vibes. Doesn't sound like a situation u enjoyed, so why not just move on?

[lovemuffin]

He was reading into your suspicion. Maybe there were problems, but you guys weren't really communicating. He knew something was up, and you were probably giving off vibes. Doesn't sound like a situation u enjoyed, so why not just move on?

Not sure what you mean. Do you mean my suspicions were accurate so he broke it off... or he was afraid I was going to dump him?

[Cain]

What do you hope to expect when you see him?

He said his opinion won't change. Why not just toss his ass aside and move on?

[lovemuffin]

I wanted to ask some questions and hear it from him in person. I was with him about every other day for the past 2 months and I feel like I've had the rug pulled out from under me... especially since he did it over the phone.

He is obviously not interested in doing it though. He never called last night.

[Sonrisa]

where the heck do you find an impotent with $100 car? show me the way!

[Cain]

I wanted to ask some questions and hear it from him in person. I was with him about every other day for the past 2 months and I feel like I've had the rug pulled out from under me... especially since he did it over the phone.

He is obviously not interested in doing it though. He never called last night.

Why do you need to hear it from him in person though? What good will it do? He's going to give you the same answers. Why do you need to ask questions? What do you expect to gain from it?

[lovemuffin]

For one thing I want to ask him what I did wrong because I feel like I did, or at least it's part of the reason.

Also, he told me in a voicemail "Look, I hope it doesn't end like this. I just gotta take care of myself for a little while. So I'll talk to you later I hope." What did that mean exactly? Is he saying he might want to try again in the future??

[Cain]

He is probably a pussy when it comes to breaking things off and so instead of coming out and saying, "I have no intention on ever getting back with you" he takes the easy way out and leaves a little bit of hope.

Don't think you did anything wrong. He'll most certainly put all of the blame on him even if you were the reason for the breakup.

[lovemuffin]

Does it sound like he met someone else or he's getting back together with his ex?

[bluesummer]

Sounds to me like he just has issues and doesn't want to be in a relationship.

You weren't really happy anyway, so why go crazy trying to figure out the reasons?

[Kromat]

I always find, that guys just like having a girl around.
Why get into one, if your not ready or financial stable for a long while on your own, and don't have to rely on her.

You should always get into one, with intentions of it going further, if it works out and you feel like this is the right person for you.

P.S. I'm not ready for a relationship myself, so I don't want to waste someones time, when I feel like it won't develop.

I need to make sure I am happy in a career, that I can do long-term and have assets built up, so that I'm happy from the start, and she can see that, and we can do things besides talking about money or our careers all the time and where it'll lead.

[lovemuffin]

I'm having a hard time letting this go because of his message where he said: "Look, I hope it doesn't end like this. I just gotta take care of myself for a little while. So I'll talk to you later I hope."

Does it sound like he might contact me again or, as someone stated above, do you think he was just trying to let me down easy?

[Cain]

I'm having a hard time letting this go because of his message where he said: "Look, I hope it doesn't end like this. I just gotta take care of myself for a little while. So I'll talk to you later I hope."

Does it sound like he might contact me again or, as someone stated above, do you think he was just trying to let me down easy?

We will not be able to provide you with a good answer. We don't know him.

He could be saying it because he means it or because he just wants to let you down easy.

The only thing you can do is see if he contacts you later on.