gift

[lewis998]

hi,

i don´t know if that topic belongs to the love advice forum, but i just have one question for you:

i fell in love with a girl, that doesn´t want a relationship at the moment. but she likes me very much. and i want to show her, that i´m not an **** like her ex-boyfriend was.

now i want to know what you think about my idea to place a rose in front of her entry door without any comment. and in two weeks the next one and in 4 weeks i want to give her the 3rd one and i want to recite a very very short poem to that (2 little sentences).
just to give her a little pleasure.

but the problem would be, that probably her parents will find the rose in the morning.

what do you think about that?

thanks,
lewis

[Cain]

How long have you known her?

How old are you both?

[vashti]

Do you mean anonymously? I don't like that plan, to be honest. It can be creepy and scary. Besides, giving off little gifts doesn't ensure a girl will like you any more than she did before, and may only irritate her if she feels obligated to return whatever feelings you have for her.

[misombra]

noooooooooooooooooo big mistake alert!

[lewis998]

i know her since october and i´m 19 and she is 17.

i have to say:
she would be my girlfriend now. but in january, after we already kissed, she said that she has fear of beeing hurt again like her ex-boyfriend did.
and until the beginning of april we wrote almost 5 days a week in icq. but 2 weeks ago i decided to have a break and give her some time - anyway i´m ill at the moment a little bit. and she also didn´t send me a message...
but yesterday i heard that she feels bad. and a few weeks ago i had the idea to give her 3 roses with a poem in a "perfect" moment.
therefore i wanted to change that idea a little bit. and place a rose in front of her entry door two times. and the third rose i would give her on my own and i would say a few words. it should only show her that i didn´t forget her. and that i still like her very very much. and in my opinion it would only be a little little gift.

but i also have the fear that she feels obligated after that...?

but probably it´s really too scary?

[Gigabitch]

Lewis, you know what girls really like? When guys listen to them. She said, "Not now", so back the **** off.

[lewis998]

okay...
one of my strengths is to listen carefully.

but it is so hard to do nothing...

[Cain]

okay...
one of my strengths is to listen carefully.

but it is so hard to do nothing...

You should also keep in mind that her telling you "not now" could also be her saying that she isn't interested in you and she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

[lewis998]

i think she would say that, if she isn´t still interested in me.

she was the one, that began to kiss in january and she was the one that said that she is going to fall in love with me (in january).

[Cain]

i think she would say that, if she isn´t still interested in me.

she was the one, that began to kiss in january and she was the one that said that she is going to fall in love with me (in january).

I don't understand how she can predict she will eventually fall in love with you. It's not something you plan. It just happens.