BF watches porn.

[carl1222]

LOL! Well it's not my fault people like to force their beliefs and opinion down other people's throat.

Interesting comment from a woman who thinks she can generalize and call all men "beasts" and "weak" and remain unchallenged because it's "just her opinion."

Carl.

[Petit Papillon]

i can't believe i missed this thread! i am so glad coco is finally showing more of her true insecure self.

MEAN GIRL! hihihi

[Aeradalia]

LOL! Well it's not my fault people like to force their beliefs and opinion down other people's throat.

It may not be your 'fault'... but it certainly doesn't help that you do the same in regards to forcing your own beliefs.

Did you honestly think you could stereotype a large group of people --- approximately half of the human species... and not receive some kind of flack?

It's the KKK's 'opinion' that blacks are inferior... so should they not be called racist because they are just voicing their 'opinions'?

A guy that hates women is just voicing his 'opinion'... so by your argument... he shouldn't be called a misogynist...

Or is this 'it's just an opinion' an exception that applies only to you?

[CocoChanel]

A lot of people are going to be insensitive to how this makes some women feel. Some women just don't like that fact that their men are turned on by other women.

Comment's like this make me wonder.
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But... On posts like this topic I agree that the women should just get over it because men are beasts and will never be brave enough to have lust, attraction, stimulation and desire of/for one woman. It's just too much to ask of Men. They are not capable of it. No matter how many times my fiancee has said otherwise... I just stare and him and move the topic right along. LOL!

I am more than satisfied with reminding you people why we are here. And there it is. My opinions all together. Eat your heart out with french fries.

Confident women also have respect for themselves. Any woman who respects herself and any man who respects their woman wouldn't go on sex escapades using pornography. I've seen it make the sexiest of women with confidence and conceit gain a little insecurity because their boyfriend is watching pornography.

If you are one of those women who doesn't have a problem... good for you. I feel bad for this girl because she hasn't gotten it yet... Men are going to be men. It doesn't mean that what they are doing is right, but in order to save yourself you've gotta get over it. Or else your jealousy will become envy; it will lead to self destruction; your self esteem will be shot to hell... all because...

Your boyfriend watches porn. Blah!

Oh Carl. That is so pathetic. It really is. LOL! Most Women are capable of being satisfied by one. Men can't. That's why you're convinced that is normal to be that way. Just face it. Men are not strong in that department.

I am not fooling myself. I don't have sexual urges to be with other men. I'm not perverted like that.

Stay on topic. I only speaking of when it comes to pornography not on everything. And thanks for the compliment.

EDIT...
That goes for you too Aeradalia. Stay on topic. Don't stretch my comment into other categories of the relationship. It is possible for someone to be 100% satisfied SEXUALLY in a relationship. Duh... of course no one is 100% satisfied in a relationship there is always something unbalanced. Whether the sex is 100 the respect is 50, the communication is 80. But... stay on topic im only speaking on overcoming pornography

Not it's not overruled in my book. Regardless. My last comment stands and I could care less what comes after it. It's my opinion.

And I give you 100% respect for that! You are one in a million I swear. Not many men can say that without something else on the side. So your girlfriend is sooooooo lucky!!

EDIT:
I guess I should have said Most Men instead of just Men in that post haha because not ALL Men are weak but Most Men are when it comes to visual stimulation.

It is a weakness and nothing you post will convince me otherwise. So you can give up now.

LOL! Well it's not my fault people like to force their beliefs and opinion down other people's throat.

[CocoChanel]

That's because you have blatant double standards and you're OK with treating your partner unfairly.

Another person who needs to read and comprehend. Go back to page 1 and follow the posts by the one and only.

[CocoChanel]

i can't believe i missed this thread! i am so glad coco is finally showing more of her true insecure self.

LOL! Sounds like you've been had it in for me. For what reason I do not know... just another hater in my book.

oh no, she has repeatedly humiliated him here before us.

Sure I have.

Interesting comment from a woman who thinks she can generalize and call all men "beasts" and "weak" and remain unchallenged because it's "just her opinion."

Carl.

Well if it makes you feel better wittle baby I meant to say MOST men and not ALL. But either way... Majority rules.

[Sonrisa]

hater and proud of it.

[Lite]

Well if it makes you feel better wittle baby I meant to say MOST men and not ALL. But either way... Majority rules.

Women make up ~52% of the population, yet we live in a patriarchal society around the world for the most part. Which means women 'rule' via subtle manipulation of men in order to get a man to follow their rules. As my wife says, "In a civilized fashion."

Which as far as I can tell means you undermine and stab each other in the backs quietly rather than just openly murder each other in the street honestly in a straight forward fashion.

You know, in simplistic beastly fashion lacking complication and refinement.

[Pikabu]

Whoa... let's see.. what was the original post? Oh yea...

I think since your BF told you specifically that he has a problem with pornography, he likely does.

I have no idea what the statistics are, but I think it's safe to say SOME men watch porn occasionally, jerk-off to it, and it has little to no impact on their relationships w/ their S/O. Additionally, SOME men have an actual addiction to pornography, watch it because they feel constantly compelled to, and jerk-off to it so much that they find it leaving a negative impact on the sex they have, (or stop having), with their S/O.

From the brief amount of info in your original post, I get the impression your guy may be leaning towards the latter example. He probably started watching more when your desire level dropped off. Not that I'm saying this is all your fault, cause I'm not. It's the damn depo shot fault from what I can see.

Were I you, if you truly love this man and want to work towards restoring a healthy sexual relationship, then I'd back off on the accusatory tone and go with a more understanding and positive tone, and accept that even if he wants to get help it will be a journey, not a single day event, and will require patience on your part. Think addiction here... you wouldn't expect an alcholic to give up all liquor the second you protest.

ie: Instead of being angry and sad as you yell "you were looking at that porn crap again, weren't you!"

Try, "You said you think you have a problem with pornography... does your gut tell you it's time to try and deal with it? Do you think our sex life would improve if you didn't look at it so much?" If he says "yes", great... offer to go to counseling with him, or be there for him while he goes alone, if he prefers, as long as there's some progress towards both of you getting back to a healthy, frequent sexual relationship.

If he says, "no", then maybe it's time to move on and find a man that either doesn't watch porn, or does so at a level that does not impact your sexual relationship.

Of course, this is all assuming he really does have a porn addiction, as he so much as stated. It's my opinion that men don't offer that up unless they do, and often don't even when they do.

GL xoxo