plz help

[mom44g]

I am sure that you are quite attached to someone who kept you from killing yourself. I am also sure that this woman cares deeply for you, but being a mother of four children myself, the ultimate decision of a good parent will always come back to what is best for the kids. I believe from the sound of it, she is rethinking her involvement with you first because she does not want someone who may be emotionally dependent upon her when she already has children and secondly because the age difference is a factor; at least it sounds that way from her actions. Perhaps you should just back off and let her know that you are there if she needs you? Give the relationship some breathing room....and see what happens...

[missinglinkisp]

I am sure that you are quite attached to someone who kept you from killing yourself. I am also sure that this woman cares deeply for you, but being a mother of four children myself, the ultimate decision of a good parent will always come back to what is best for the kids. I believe from the sound of it, she is rethinking her involvement with you first because she does not want someone who may be emotionally dependent upon her when she already has children and secondly because the age difference is a factor; at least it sounds that way from her actions. Perhaps you should just back off and let her know that you are there if she needs you? Give the relationship some breathing room....and see what happens...

you obviously didnt read the last page. it was nothing to do with that,i supported her and the kids and took care of them all for a year while she was ****ing my friend,shes a whore and then tryd to hire someone to kill me when I found out she was cheating and left. she USED me,and the only reason she isnt in jail is cus I dont want the kids to be motherless so I didnt press charges.

[justme78783]

plz help
i dont normaly post my biz to everyone but right now i have no one to turn to and am looking for advice.

I have been in a relationship for 7 months,before then i was great friends with her for a long time. we have been close pretty much since the day we met,and tell each other everything. she is older than me and has three children. we had plans for me to move in with her. we started saying how much we love each other about 4 months in,shes always said she loved me very much and i have to her as well. and the other day we had an arguement,it was stupid and pointless,basicly just because i took something she said wrongly.i laughed when she was trying to be serious but honestly i thought she was kidding cus it was silly. she thought by laughing i was calling her an idiot,i explained i wasnt and,everything seemed ok the rest of the day but i thought she felt hurt,the next day i emailed her this letter.

am just thinking about all the stuff we said,and i would like to tell you a few things........you dont even have to respond to this i just want to tell you how i feel.

not only do i not think your idiot........i actualy think and know your the smartest person i could of hoped to meet. your also the most caring,loving person i have ever met,and you treat me like im someone,and special.......you make it clear to me that you love and care for me..........no one else does. thats why it tears me up to think i hurt you,your everything to me and i would never want to do anything to hurt or evn upset you. you have made my life better in more ways than you will ever know...............you are litteraly my whole life and my reason for living. without you i would not be here today,you hav saved my life and done so much for me. i love you more than life itself. *hugs you very tightly and never lets go*

now,i wrote that hoping to make her feel better....in case your wondering,she saved my life by talking me out of killing myself a year ago(before we were together). and i got an email back saying that was very sweet.....she seemed happy,but then an hour or so later i got this....

you know how much i love you......i do hope that you truly do love me for being me and not because you think no one else cares about you?......its just you have mentioned that a lot to me.......im just saying what you have said to me many times and by no means trying to argue.

now i was hurt by that,and i did say that,it hurt she had to ask,but i explained it as best i could,and told her thats only one of a million reasons i love her.......and i listed countless others. but then i later saw a post she made on facebook.......she tryd to hide it from me,she didnt want me to see it but i did.......and quiet frankly this is heartbreaking to me.

My boyfriend has stated to me on several occasions that ...i payed him attention...and that is why he likes me so much!We were friends for a long time before we started our relationship..He is younger than me and i have 3 children that he is very much trying to get to know,i guess my worries are that he really only wants to be with me and loves me because i payed him attention and cared His family life at home is horrible and i feel he is using me as an escape to a better life.We live
apart, but he is planning on coming to me and never returning to his *family*He is very sensative and gets depressed very easily so i am trying to tread carefully!.....thank's in advance.

i spent 7 hours explaining why those things arnt true........and what the truth is. she says she understands now, but really idk if she wants me there,by that post she made idk.......she says she does want me there more than anything. but what im really worried about is the fact she doesnt know why i love her,even tho i send things and love letters to her every single day,and she states in that she thinks i just looking to escape my family. she said when we talked about it that she knows i want to be with her and have a life together......i tryd to explain as best i could that i want to live with her to live with her.........not to escape my family.she said she understood all this and after 7 hours of talking about it she says everythings the same as before and that she feels alot better and understands.

however im upset,now im afraid what i can say around her,i dont want to give her wrong ideas,and i really wonder if she truly does understand,or just said she did to shut me up. i love her dearly,everything i said in that letter is true.but now by that post she made on facebook im afraid she doesnt want me living with her. and many other things she said hurt me. there is one more issue,we used to have "time" if you know what i mean,everyday or nearly every day,now i know our time is good for both of us,so its not that anything is wrong in that way,but in 12 days now we havnt been "together". the longest we havnt before was 3 days. now 12,every night shes been saying shes tired,i think she may be but 12 days,come on. now i find out this stuff yesterday and i think we havnt cus shes been thinking this stuff 12 days now. she seems fine all day till the kids sleep and i bring it up(im very careful how i do,and romantic about it) the second i say or do anything she changes instantly and says shes so tired. i didnt say anything yesterday at all because of that thing she posted and although she acts as if we are ok,im unsure,and very afraid of what i can say to her. its really heart breaking to me. im just looking for some advice,i dont have anyone but her,and for obvious reasons i cant get an oppinion or advice from her.........sorry in advance for spelling and length.
i had posted this in another forum but only got one response,ill post the reply i said to him so thats cleared up in advance here.

I have known about the kids for a long time and care for them as well,i am very aware how important they are. she takes good care of the kids and i try to as well,im not going to say the ages,i dont want it clouding the issue,im not real young,but there is an age gap.this isnt about the kids or me trying to be more important than them.i care about and love the kids as well.
i dont pressure her,she brought up me moving in,not me. i dont see anything im pressuring her about,she also brought up that she wants us to have a kid together as well,so im not the one asking to move in or pressuring her into anything. as for me being clingy.........i guess i am,shes really all i have,but you should know shes exactly the same way. i didnt write that as "I am so lucky to have you because who else would" ,at least that wasnt my intention,i was simply trying to say how sweet and caring she was to me from the start and that i had never met anyone as nice as her before. i could get someone else..........in fact i have been asked if i single a few times and said no,if i wanted i could get another girl tonight.......thats not what i was trying to exrpress to her. we are both good looking,thats not the issue,its not that no one else would have me........i just meant no one else treats me as sweet as her.

You know what buddy ? Why dont you concider the idea of giving her the adress of this topic ? By reading your post she will understand a lot things , she will truly understand what you feel about her etc. It is a simple idea , but i think it could work . (simply explain to her that you decided to give her this adress after someone from the members of this forum told) ! And i am sure she will understand how much you love her .

Hope you understand what i am saying .

Have a niee day ,

[missinglinkisp]

You know what buddy ? Why dont you concider the idea of giving her the adress of this topic ? By reading your post she will understand a lot things , she will truly understand what you feel about her etc. It is a simple idea , but i think it could work . (simply explain to her that you decided to give her this adress after someone from the members of this forum told) ! And i am sure she will understand how much you love her .

Hope you understand what i am saying .

Have a niee day ,

uhm yet again

you obviously didnt read the last page. it was nothing to do with that,i supported her and the kids and took care of them all for a year while she was ****ing my friend,shes a whore and then tryd to hire someone to kill me when I found out she was cheating and left. she USED me,and the only reason she isnt in jail is cus I dont want the kids to be motherless so I didnt press charges.

I frankly dont care how she feels or if shes dead,clear ppl?

[Junket]

Dude, many of these people are reading the first post, which is what, like a year old, and has 8 pages of responses.

It would have been smarter to have started a new thread with a link to this one describing the new circumstances.

[missinglinkisp]

Dude, many of these people are reading the first post, which is what, like a year old, and has 8 pages of responses.

It would have been smarter to have started a new thread with a link to this one describing the new circumstances.

sorry FB,you can close it now if you want,I wont be having an new updates with it. Thank you all for the help.

[Junket]

<<Closing>>

Feel free to come back, though.